Welcome to hitched roles. A successful wedding can only be achieved
if everyone involved delivers their part in the big day. The key part in ensuring
this happens is to make sure everyone knows what part they are expected to play.
To help get you started with this we have put together a summary of the key activities
each role would responsible for in a traditional wedding. You may wish to change
some of these responsibilities based on your own preferences and circumstances,
which is fine.
Traditionally the best man would liaise closely with the chief Bridesmaid to ensure
that the wedding runs smoothly. Whilst the best man has no specific status in the
arrangements for the engagement party, the stag night , the actual wedding day itself or the reception, he may be called upon to help with deliveries/pickups and other
general organisation matters.
The ushers are chosen by the groom and his best man and are usually brothers, close
relatives or friends (which covers just about anyone!) of the bride and groom.
As a general guide you will need an usher for each 50 guests. Traditionally the
ushers are the responsibility of the best man, who ensures they know their duties.
The chief bridesmaid is usually a sister or close friend of the bride. However,
if she is already married herself or if the bride is a widow and is re-marrying,
her title becomes Matron of Honour. She will liaise closely with the bride during
all the wedding preparations and help look after the other bridesmaids, flower girl
and page boys.
A bridesmaid is usually a sister of the bride or groom or a close friend of the
bride. Older bridesmaids will liaise with the bride and chief bridesmaid during
the wedding preparations and help with the choice of dresses. Younger ones will
not be expect to take an active part in the planning stage but their mothers may
get involved instead.