Best Man Duties Explained

Find out exactly what the best man’s duties include and what is involved in the role of best man by reading our comprehensive guide

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Congratulations! You’ve been chosen to be the best man and you’re probably feeling pretty smug about it.

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Whether you’re a close friend or the groom’s brother, there’s lots you need to know about the best man duties.

Typically, you won’t be involved in much of the wedding planning, but the best man’s duties include planning a stag do for the groom, giving the best man’s speech and keeping the wedding rings safe on the big day.

Sounds pretty easy, right? It’ll be even easier if you use this guide to swot up everything you need to do – oh, and don’t forget to check out our top tips at the bottom!

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Before the Wedding

Help Choose the Suits

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One of the main duties that comes with being best man is the suit shopping. The best man will need to assist the groom in rounding up the ushers and the other important male members of the wedding party to go and try on suits.

The best man should discuss with the groom about whether the groomswear is to be bought or hired. Traditionally, the couple pay for the wedding suits, but if it’s decided that financial contributions are required, make sure this is discussed openly and up front.

READ MORE: A Groom’s Guide to Buying a Wedding Suit

Get Acquainted With the Ushers

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The best man needs to be aware of who all the ushers are and what duty they’ll have on the day so he can make sure everyone is in place before the bride arrives.

As the wedding date approaches, you need to make sure the ushers know where they need to be, what they’re doing and at what time. This also includes any last minute suit fittings.

You might also want to chat with the maid of honour and see what useful things you can have to hand on the day – such as large umbrellas in case the weather is bad.

READ MORE: How to Make the Most of Rain on Your Wedding Day

Help Set Up

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Luckily for the best man, he’s not expected to pitch in much with the wedding planning duties. When it comes to wedding crafts and DIY, it’s typically the maid of honour’s role to assist. But that’s not to say the best man can’t offer to help out!

Even if the girls are in charge of the finer details, offering to set up, move furniture and direct suppliers on the morning of the wedding won’t go amiss.

Plan The Stag Do

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This is the best man’s moment to shine, and probably the moment all best men dream of: planning the stag do. You’ll take the lead in organising the groom’s last big night out before he gets married. Check with the groom for a list of people he’d like to attend and think carefully about locations.

The best way to plan the stag do is to pick two or three dates and ask the rest of the group who can attend them, before picking the date the majority can do. It might seem ruthless but it’s the easiest way to organise a large group of people without going back and forth too much.

Make sure you consider everyone’s budget when planning the stag do – a big blow out in Vegas sounds amazing but if only two or three of you can afford to go, will it really be as good as a weekend closer to home with all of the boys?

Try and organise the stag do to take place up to three months before the wedding. This gives everyone time to recover – the bruises can fade and the hangovers can finally be forgotten. Think about ways to personalise the stag do, and pranks to play on the groom. Get t-shirts printed, organise masks and set out challenges for everyone to take on.

Give the ushers tasks to help make the planning easier for you. One can scout out the best places to go, the other can print out the challenges.

READ MORE: How to Plan a Stag Do

Coordinate the Groomsmen’s Gift to the Groom

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This isn’t compulsory, but it might be nice to present the groom with a gift from his groomsmen on the morning of his wedding.

Chat to the ushers and the stags, and see if anyone would be up for putting in a bit of money towards it. It’d be a really nice touch!

READ MORE: Groomsmen Gift Ideas for Every Budget

The Day Before the Wedding

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Help the couple by picking up any hired items and delivering them where they need to go – this can include the wedding suits. As mentioned, you might also be asked to help with any set up at the venue so be prepared to pitch in!

The best man may stay with the groom the night before the wedding. Prepare for this with whisky and lots of snacks, but make sure the groom doesn’t drink too much or eat anything that could cause an issue the next day.

If you have some spare time, go over the best man’s speech once more to make sure you’re confident in reading it out.

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On the Wedding Day

Help The Groom Get Ready

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This is it – the big day for couple, and for the best man too.

The best man needs to help the groom get ready on the morning of the wedding, take delivery of any buttonholes and hand them out to the groomsmen.

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Keep The Rings Safe

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Keep the wedding rings safe ahead of the ceremony, and make sure the ushers are in place and the orders of service are out.

Greet the Guests and Stand With the Groom

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You need to make sure the groom is at the venue at least twenty minutes before the ceremony is due to start.

The best man should then stand with the groom to greet the guests, and also collect any telegrams or messages to be read out during the speeches.

Before the wedding ceremony starts, the groom and the best man should take their places on the front right-hand side of the ceremony room. Make sure you have the rings to hand, ready for when the couple come to exchange rings.

READ MORE: The Ultimate Wedding Ceremony Guide

Give a Reading

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The best man might be asked to give a reading during the service, or to be witness to the signing of the register.

Once the ceremony is over, the best man is required to escort the maid of honour out of the room. You will also, alongside the ushers, need to help to round up guests for the wedding photographer’s list of group photos.

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Stand in the Receiving Line

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If the newlyweds choose to have a receiving line at the wedding reception, you will be expected to stand in it and greet the guests as a key part of the wedding party.

If the couple have decided not to have a toastmaster or a master of ceremonies, the best man may be asked to announce key elements like the couple’s arrival into the reception room, the speeches and the cutting of the cake.

Give a Speech

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You’ll have already gone over your speech to make sure your delivery is confident and clear (and ran it past a trusted person to make sure it’s not offensive), but now is the moment of truth.

Speeches traditionally take place after the meal, but it’s becoming increasingly popular to have them before so the speech-givers can then relax and enjoy their meal. Make sure you’re aware of the timings the couple have decided.

With regards wedding speech order, the best man’s speech is traditionally last, after the father of the bride speech and the groom speech.

You’re bound to be a bit nervous, but make sure you speak slowly, pause for laughter and mention everyone who needs to be mentioned. If you’re after some last minute joke-inspo, take a look at our round-up of tried and tested best man speech jokes!

If you had any messages to read out, do this at the same time as your speech.

READ MORE: 21 Ways to End Your Best Man Speech

Dance With the Maid of Honour

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After the first dance has taken place, it’s traditional for the best man to dance with the maid of honour.

If the couple are following tradition and going away for their honeymoon that night, the best man should make sure to decorate the going away car, if they have one. Other than that, you’re then free to enjoy the party and celebrate with your best friends!

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After the Wedding

Take Care of the Groom’s Attire

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The best man could be asked to help out by rounding up and returning any hired items, such as the suits and any decorative details used at the venue.

You could also be asked to safely store the wedding gifts if the couple go on honeymoon straight away.

Top Tips for the Best Man

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  1. Set up a group chat on a messaging service like WhatsApp or Facebook. This will help you organise the ushers and plan the stag do pranks behind the groom’s back.
  2. Make sure you’re completely familiar with the running of the day – people will look to the best man to explain what’s happening next or where they need to be. Make sure you don’t disappoint.
  3. Practise your speech – even if you’re sick of it, we can’t say it enough. Being asked to give the best man’s speech is a huge honour so make sure you deliver.
  4. Pace yourself. It’s stressful and quite nerve-wracking being asked to be the best man, but resist the urge to drown your fear in free champagne and JD; you need to be sober and coherent to do your duties.
  5. Look after the groom – it’s pretty likely the groom is going to be caught up in well-wishers and celebrating, but make sure he has food and drink on hand when he needs them.

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Now you know what your duties are, get clued up on the usher duties so you can keep the other men in check!