A bride faced the wrath of the internet when she claimed her pregnant bridesmaid owed her for “upstaging” her on her wedding day.
The 25-year-old bride, posting on Reddit under the username ignoredbride, said her bridesmaid Anna became the “star of the show” for the day and she ended up fleeing her reception in tears.
Three years prior to the wedding, when the planning had begun, Anna had been denied a plus one, which the bride said was the reason she had taken “revenge” on her wedding day. And what terrible things was it Anna did?
The charismatic bridesmaid had got married four months before this bride’s wedding, become pregnant “without a thought” and brought along her “incredibly attractive” husband as a plus one. Yes, really.
“She was hugely pregnant, and didn’t refrain from showing it off,” wrote the bride.
“We’re both fairly young (25) and in my husband’s culture, getting pregnant before late 20s/30s, married or not, is basically a teenage pregnancy and drew ATTENTION.
“She also has a vibrant personality and has a way of eclipsing everyone around her. Her husband is also very tall and incredibly attractive, which drew a lot of attention.
“All anyone spoke about or of was Anna’s pregnancy and her attractive husband. Even in the line, people were asking about that ‘electric woman’ and of her pregnancy/marriage/life. When they got up to dance, all eyes were on them.”
There was one element of the bride’s story that did seem to justify her upset, although it was reduced to a one-line footnote.
“Anna’s friend ended up hooking up with my brother, outing him as gay and causing a huge scandal,” she wrote.
The bride revealed she left in the middle of the reception in tears, and didn’t attend her celebration brunch the next day – which Anna didn’t either.
“I can’t even look at the pictures without crying and desperately want a do over.
“I’m not a bridezilla, but this was beyond the pale. It felt like a celebration of Anna’s marriage. I’m sorry, but I put so much planning, effort, and money into this while someone that got pregnant without a thought and married spur of the moment reaped the benefits.
“I honestly feel like Anna owes me a wedding and did all of this as revenge for me offending her years ago. Am I wrong?”
It seemed that most of Reddit’s users did indeed believe that the bride was wrong.
“I also can’t believe people like OP exists. It’s not Anna’s fault she decided to live her life. Your planning spanned three years without any consideration OR expectation of possible changes within the people involved. HELLO? Time doesn’t stand still just for you. That alone shows how self-centred you are. You are 100% a bridezilla,” wrote one.
“‘I am not a bridezilla’ is what every bridezilla says always,” agreed another user.
“I really don’t understand why people are defending this Anna character. Like imagine inviting an attractive man to your friend’s wedding! AND HE’S TALL. Like she’s just the worst person on the planet. I think she owes the OP the entire cost of the wedding and some compensation for the emotional trauma she had to go through to get married while there was a TALL ATTRACTIVE MAN present. The poor woman,” one joked.
Another pointed out the ridiculousness of judging Anna’s situation as akin to a “teenage pregnancy”.
“I know, it’s like she resents Anna for not being frozen in time from the moment of OP’s engagement to her wedding three years later.
“Like, at the time she was just dating the guy in a very single way, so HOW DARE SHE reach relationships milestones at a faster rate than OP’s three-year engagement?
“Also, Anna was supposed to live her life by the cultural rules of her friend’s groom’s family. Meanwhile, OP didn’t think it necessary to even meet Anna’s husband and the father of her child,” she wrote.
What do you think? Is the bride a Bridezilla or is she actually owed an apology?