Pre Hen Parties: The New Wedding Trend Everyone is Talking About

We all know the hen party is one of the most anticipated events in the wedding lead-up - but what if you don’t want to wait 18 months (or longer!) for it to roll around? Enter the pre-hen night: a fun, often more low-key get-together that takes place before the official hen do.

Whether you’re newly engaged, planning a long engagement, or have friends and family scattered across the country, the pre-hen party is fast becoming a brilliant way to break the ice, get your besties from different parts of your life to bond, and start the celebrations early - without the pressure (or price tag) of a big bash.

Here’s everything you need to know about what a pre-hen night is, why they’re growing in popularity, and how to plan one that won’t break the bank.

What Is a Pre-Hen Night?

A pre-hen night (or pre-hen party) is exactly what it sounds like - a celebration held before the main hen do.

Think of it as a mini warm-up: a smaller, often more casual get-together with some or all of your bridal party.

It’s perfect for getting to know each other if not everyone has met yet, especially if you’re planning a bigger hen do later on down the line.

Unlike traditional hen dos - which can involve weekend getaways, matching outfits and full itineraries - pre-hens tend to be more chilled, budget-friendly, and all about connection.

Why Are Pre-Hen Parties So Popular Right Now?

There are a few reasons pre-hen parties are having a moment:

• Long engagements: With many couples booking weddings 18+ months in advance, it can feel like a long time to wait for the hen do fun to start.
• Rising costs: Weddings (and wedding-related events) are more expensive than ever. A mini hen do gives you the chance to celebrate without committing to big spends right away.
• Social media influence: Platforms like TikTok and Instagram have made it normal - and even expected - to celebrate every milestone, from engagement parties to ‘bridesmaid proposals’. A pre-hen night slots right into that vibe.
• Friendship dynamics: If your hens are a mix of school mates, uni friends and work wives, a low-key hen party before the big one can be a brilliant way to break the ice and avoid awkward intros on the main event.

Pre-Hen Party Ideas

Need a little inspo? Here are some pre-hen party ideas that are fun, easy to plan and work for most budgets:

• A chilled wine and cheese night at someone’s house
• Group yoga or wellness class, followed by coffee and chats
• Sip & paint night - get creative and tipsy in equal measure
• Movie marathon sleepover - themed pyjamas optional (but encouraged)
• DIY afternoon tea at home or in a local café
• Mini staycation - just one night somewhere cosy and cute
• Games night with drinks and snacks - think hen-themed bingo or truth-or-dare
• Budget spa day with home facials, robes and a few candles go a long way

Tips for Keeping It Budget-Friendly

It’s no secret that being part of a wedding can be pricey - from outfits and travel to hen do costs and gifts. So how do you celebrate without adding pressure?

Here are some tips to keep your pre-hen night affordable:

• Be clear about costs upfront - if you're planning it, let people know it's a low-pressure, low-budget vibe
• Host at home - it cuts costs massively and can still feel super special
• Get everyone to bring something - snacks, drinks, games - it all adds up. You can theme the offerings to add to the fun.
• Stick to one night only - resist the temptation to turn it into another hen weekend
• Use free activities - walks, game nights, DIY spa setups and film clubs are all cost-free fun

Pre-Hen Etiquette: Do You Have to Host One?

Short answer: absolutely not. A pre-hen party is totally optional - and whether you have one depends on your timeline, your budget and your people.

If you’re having one:

• Let your group know it’s informal and doesn’t replace the real hen
• Don’t expect gifts or over-the-top gestures - this is just a fun bonus moment
• If you're a guest, don't feel pressured to attend both (especially if money or travel is tricky)

It’s about making memories, not ticking boxes - and there are no rules.

A pre-hen night is a lovely way to kick off the wedding celebrations early – especially if your hen do feels far off or slightly overwhelming.

With the cost of weddings rising, it’s also a great way to get everyone together for a more affordable, meaningful night that’s still packed with joy.

Whether you go for a mini hen do at home or a simple spa day with your closest crew, the key is keeping it light, low-pressure and full of fun.

Because when it comes to weddings, the more moments you get to celebrate? The better.