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31 Oct 2017

Hen Guest Left Devastated After Discovering She's Not Invited to the Wedding

by rima@hitched

More often than not, if you’re on the invite list for a hen party, it’s likely that you’ll be invited to the wedding too, right?

Well, perhaps not. According to one Mumsnet user, this isn’t always the case.

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The disgruntled user took to the Mumsnet forum to express her dismay after discovering that a friend had been invited to the hen party of a bride-to-be, but didn’t make the cut as a wedding guest.

“She’s driving 3.5 hrs on Friday evening, taking two people. Paying £160 for 2 nights at a hotel. Couldn’t get the Friday off work and told the group this – but they’ve arranged it so that the (paid for with her hotel money) events, spa day etc are all in the day on Friday.” [s i c]

The distressed user continued to explain that the friend was also asked to pay £50 towards a table in a nightclub, where food and drink isn’t included in the price, and then drive three people home the following day.

She continues the post with: “SHE ISN’T INVITED TO THE WEDDING! NOT EVEN THE EVENING DO!”

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Despite the seemingly unusual situation that her friend is being faced with, the user explains that her friend is still going to the hen party because she’s paid half of the costs upfront – but expresses her anger at the conditions.

Fellow Mumsnet users were quick to comment and react, with the majority of advising that her friend should ‘cut her losses’ and not attend the hen party.

One advised: “That’s ridiculous and she absolutely shouldn’t go. Having paid half is nothing compared to what it will end up costing her. I wouldn’t go in that situation, who goes to a hen when they aren’t invited to the wedding!?”

Despite most users supporting the poster and her friend, others were less sympathetic, with one writing: “She’s an adult. If she thinks it’s too expensive, she should be more assertive and not go. To go and moan about price is just being a martyr.”

So what's your verdict? Should all hen party goers be invited to the wedding?

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Published 31 Oct 2017 11:39 by rima@hitched