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Last update: March 2024

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Where Hampshire meets Surrey - surrounded by landscaped grounds, Cain Manor’s Tudor charm will steal your heart from the moment you reach the end of the winding woodland drive.

This quintessential English hideaway is set in a perfectly secluded setting and lends itself seamlessly to the luxury weddings held year after year.

2024 Wedding Offer

Harper Weddings has released a limited amount of dates available for 2024 from June onwards, where you can get 24h exclusive hire of Cain Manor from just £2,400 on your Harper Wedding.

But you’ll have to be quick, with many couples enquiring and this summer proving a very high demand one, make sure to book your visit soon to make sure you don’t miss out.

* Offer applies to new wedding bookings only and is subject to date availability. Offer cannot be used in conjunction with any other offer. Offer applies to Harper Weddings only. Offer does not apply to Dry Hire weddings. Expires 31.12.24

Facilities and Capacity

You wander through the oak doorway, picturing that flower arch you’ve had in mind for a few weeks, and you can see that it would work perfectly! A wedding planner leads you through to the Music Room, you look up to see a ceiling of oak beams (repurposed from ancient ships, no less), and you’re not surprised that the house is as charming on the inside as it is on the out.

Light floods through the Cathedral window, highlighting the exact spot where you would say your I do’s. Through the window, you see the endless gardens and an alfresco option for the ceremony with views overlooking the Surrey Hills - romantic would be an understatement.

The manor house and its grounds are exclusively yours for 24 hours, so think of it as your home for the day (and night). It’s licensed to host wedding ceremonies both inside and out, with up to 123 guests, and 170 for an evening reception.

With exclusive use, you might also find time to enjoy the tennis courts and swimming pool.

Thinking about making the most of it with a weekend wedding? Our wedding planning team can make it work for you! Get in touch and we will put all our knowledge and planning skills to make your weekend wedding a truly memorable occasion.

Accommodation

At the end of an eventful day, it’s good to know your beautiful Cain Suite, complete with roll-top bath, is just a few short steps away.

Ten further bedrooms await your guests, meaning that your nearest and dearest can join you for breakfast the following morning to share their happy memories of your day.

Naturally, breakfast is included, served the following morning for you and your resident guests.

Visiting Cain Manor

Websites and brochures are all very well, but we all know that nothing beats meeting in real life to know whether you’ve found the one. We host several weekend Open Houses at each venue each month so that couples who are yet to decide on their wedding venue can visit for a tour, a chat, and a glass of something celebratory.

Please email us at cainmanor@harperweddings.co.uk or call us on 0345 130 9966 to book your appointment.

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Frequently asked questions

Venue type:

In the country
Historic
Barn
Outdoor license
Unique weddings

Ceremony options:

Civil ceremony licence

Dining options:

Seated meal facilities
Alcohol licence
Buffet meal facilities
In-house catering

Evening entertainment:

Dance floor
Entertainment licence
Live band facilities
Evening reception facilities
DJ facilities

Overnight accommodation:

Overnight accommodation for wedding couple
Overnight accommodation for guests

Venue staff assistance:

Master of ceremonies/toastmaster
Wedding coordinator

Venue leisure facilities:

Swimming pool

Other features:

Exclusive use
Accessible facilities
Car parking
Confetti permitted
Changing room for wedding guests
Pet-friendly
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Reviews for Cain Manor

4.9 out of 5 rating
Hitched Wedding Awards 2024 Winner
4.9 out of 5 rating
187 reviews
98% recommend it
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Katie B. Sent on 01/06/2023
4.8 out of 5 rating

Amazing day

What an amazing day! From start to finish this venue went above and beyond to help give us the wedding of our dreams. It was a beautiful setting and so needed very little extra decoration. The food was lovely and the dj read the room brilliantly. The staff knew exactly what they were doing and I didn’t need to check anything. So many guests said it was the best wedding they’d ever been too. Thanks so much for a day we will never forget!
Stephanie
Stephanie Y. Sent on 03/11/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Best wedding venue

Our day was beyond what we dreamt it would be. The team worked so hard to ensure it all ran smoothly, and our guests were blown away with it all. A stunning venue, the best food they'd ever had at a wedding and just how smoothly everything went even with an health emergency with my Grandma. Having the webcam available also allowed those unable to attend could be there virtually from all over the world and my other Grandma, who lives in a dementia nursing home,had the most wonderful time celebrating with us too. We will never forget it, thank you from the bottom of our hearts x
Will
Will H. Sent on 12/10/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Absolutely Superb

We cannot fault Cain Manor for their service, facilities and overall performance. We booked Cain Manor for our wedding reception in September, with the ceremony held in a church, and from the very first day we felt looked after. We were given lots of opportunities to build our day with the help of the team, the portal is definitely a good way of keeping on top of things and reminding you what you need to do! The communication is good and we never felt like there was ever going to be a problem that couldn't be worked out. Solutions were definitely found for all concerns we had!
On the day itself, the service from Freya, Daisy and their team was outstanding, everyone felt looked after and there were no problems throughout the day, even able to make last minute changes to the table plan literally an hour before the wedding breakfast.
I cannot fault this, and although it is highly unlikely we will get married again, we would not hesitate to use Cain Manor!
Joanne
Joanne S. Sent on 19/09/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Gorgeous venue and setting

We had an unforgettably magical day at Cain Manor, the day flowed so seamlessly and we can’t thank the staff and suppliers enough.
We received so many compliments about the food and the venue with one guest insisting that we had a celebrity wedding and others that it was the best wedding they’d ever been to. It is a perfect wedding venue and Harper are highly recommended.
Robyn
Robyn S. Sent on 13/09/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Wonderful From Day One

From the first time viewing the venue right up to the final goodbyes the morning after, Cain Manor were amazing.
Starting with Dean, he was a huge reason as to why we chose Cain Manor. He showed us around on the first viewing; asking us how we envisioned our day, painting a picture for us, and allowing us to see ourselves in the space.
The team who helped us before the day (Megan and Ann) were very fast with responses and nothing was too much or forgotten about. Speaking to them and using the online planner was seamless I can't imagine planning a wedding without their help or the planner!
On the day I can't explain how smoothly everything went, and if it didn't, I was unaware as they dealt with everything so professionally and smoothly. Everyone was wonderful, but a special mention must go to Freya, Jane, and Toby who were impeccable. They really made us feel like the only people in the world.
The venue itself is beautiful, and the food is still being raved about.
On the 1st of September, Cain Manor was the happiest place in the world and I want to thank the staff for being able to make that happen.
Charlotte
Charlotte H. Sent on 20/06/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Beautiful venue with fantastic staff

Where to begin…. Cain Manor is a fabulous, beautiful, characterful venue with a fantastic amazing team of staff.
Our Wedding Day was perfect, their team even organized the weather with a lovely sunny spring day so we could have our ceremony outside!
From the moment we first viewed the venue, with Danielle showing us around, we fell in love with it! And then going forward they continued to make us feel so welcome on each visit. The Harper Wedding Planner is a life-saver and along with the Wedding Planning Wednesdays, with Emy, Ashely & Maddie, and the online messaging system made the planning process was so smooth and stress-free!
On the day itself, every single staff member was fantastic. We felt the whole day ran so effortlessly and that is credit to the Team.
From when I arrived in the morning to the Prep Room to get ready in, to them getting Luke into the Stable Block, so they could move me to the Bridal Suite to finish getting ready, would not have gone so well without their coordination and help!
The Food was so tasty from the tasting platter menu tasting to the plates dishes on the day. Every guest we have spoken with only had good things to say! The venue itself is so beautiful, so many guests loving the character of the house and the grounds!
Bonnie, our doggy, loved the place as well! And it is a great dog-friendly venue!
Special mention to Danielle, Freya, Eloise, Jane and actually everyone at Cain Manor and the wider Harper Staff Team for helping is have an UNFORGETABLE wedding day!
We can’t thank the team enough and very highly recommend to anyone asking!
Charlotte & Luke – 29 April 2023
(Photo by David @marriedtomycamera)
Jemma
Jemma R. Sent on 04/10/2022
4.6 out of 5 rating

Mixed bag, but overall my wedding was magical

Firstly, Cain Manor is STUNNING. it's exactly what i had in mind when I imagined my dream wedding. What's super important to remember though is that this isn't just a wedding venue, it's a sole use wedding experience ran by Bijou (now Harper) weddings. This has its pros and cons - the online planner for example is fantastic. However, you're not just committing to the beautiful venue, you're also committing to Harper's somewhat stringent T&C's. Their job is to make life easier, which in most instances they did, however i would advise others looking at this venue to do their homework and make sure they know exactly what they are agreeing to before they commit. There were a fair few "extra" costs i.e. £695 for a dance floor that we hadn't thought about, we'd assumed things like this to be included. Maybe we were a bit naive. We got our dance floor externally in the end for a much cheaper price but had to jump through a few bureaucratic hoops and do a bit of planning on our side to make this happen. if you're happy to pay the extra costs, your life will be easier, and also worth noting is that this venue is so beautiful that you may feel you don't need any extras. We had our florist do room dressing etc which worked out best all round.
Another issue was use of their DJ, I understand from a insurance point of view this is easier all round, but yet again at a cost of £695 . The DJ we used was half this price, but again a bit of bureaucracy to jump through with his PAT testing etc. Spot the theme here.
On the day the team were wonderful, the food exquisite and overall my wedding day was everything I needed it to be. Harper were prompt with my refund and are currently helping me to investigate a missing wedding gift. Everyone on the team has been lovely, especially when I had the odd frustration; they came across as very understanding. Maddie on the planning team and Freya and Antoine on the day all deserve a special mention - they were fantastic.
Overall I'd say 4/5. Thank you Harper/Bijou.

Jemma and Michael 23.09.22
William
William V. Sent on 04/11/2021
5 out of 5 rating

Our special day finally arrived!

We were due to get married at Cain in 2020 however like many couples covid put paid to our original plans. We found Bijou to be amazing during this incredibly stressful and uncertain time and after rescheduled our original date 3 times my partner and I were finally able to tie the knot this summer.

It was worth the wait, Cain Manor is spectacular and Dean and his team were simply brilliant. We really relaxed and fully enjoyed ourselves, as did our families, knowing everything was completely taken care of. We really felt that the Cain Manor was our home for the day and cannot recommend it highly enough.
Adam
Adam G. Sent on 03/09/2020
1 out of 5 rating

20% discount - for no wedding!

After my experience, I'd like to simply suggest potential customers google some of the following media stories- which all name this company (and I'm in some of the stories). This is by no means an exhaustive list of their recent coverage.

1) 'Which' website - 'Couples jilted at altar by wedding venues cancelling big day – and pocketing their cash'
2) BBC website - ''Our wedding is cancelled but we still have to pay'
3) BBC One Show "Watchdog - Weddings"
4) Guardian - "Cancelled weddings – refusal to issue refund may be breach of law"
5) Surrey live - "Couple 'heartbroken' after Bijou Weddings cancels big day and asks for 80% cancellation fee"

As a statement of fact, Bijou still have £13,000 of my money for a wedding in May 2020, that they cancelled, and will not refund us.

Adam French, the Senior Consumer rights editor for 'Which', confirmed on ITV news on 26 May 2020 that "as part of this investigation, we have passed on the details of 12 venues - including the Bijou Group - to the regulator (The Competition and Markets Authority" for further investigation'.

Those organisations working in customer services would do well to consider that their reputation is a more valuable long term asset than any bank balance which has been inflated - based on what what some might think to be deliberate contractual ambiguity. Of course, we were presumably all supposed to know from the outset that Bijou could cancel our wedding and charge us 80% of the total cost!
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Lorraine S. Sent on 06/09/2023
5 out of 5 rating

The perfect day!!

Cain Manor, thank you from the bottom of my heart for making my daughter and husband’s wedding day the most amazing day ever. Robyn & Joe got married on Friday 1st September and from the moment we arrived and were met by Freya, to the moment she and Jane said good bye to us the following morning, the whole event was beyond what we could have imagined.
The waiting/service staff were impeccable, Toby our waiter couldn’t do enough for us, and the food was outstanding - one of the best meals I’ve had and many guests said the same. The bar staff and housekeeping staff were fabulous. I honestly can’t thank you enough. The team were there without intruding. Seamless!
As for the venue and location…magical! We’ve had a day we’ll cherish for the rest of our lives and you all played a - BIG - part!
Thank you to all the team at Cain Manor. Keep doing what you’re doing!!
C
Clara E. Sent on 14/08/2023
4.6 out of 5 rating

Easily the best day of our lives so far

We got married at Cain Manor in April 2023 and everything about the day was amazing, the staff were so helpful, friendly and extremely organised, the food was outstanding, the venue looked beautiful! All of the guests complimented the venue and said it was all amazing. I would definitely recommend Cain Manor to get married in. We couldn’t have asked for a better day!
B
Brooke R. Sent on 10/05/2023
5 out of 5 rating

April 2023

We got married April 23
The whole experience from reserving the day to the final was 10/10.
The staff were constantly on hand with any questions or concerns we might have. Their planning system was really helpful.
On the day of our wedding the staff were outstanding!!
All extremely friendly. Happy to be there and help.
A lot of guest at our wedding were over the moon with the food. It was incredible and a lot of comment ‘best food they’ve had at a wedding’ and it really was.
I honestly can’t recommend this venue enough. It had everything we wanted and want to relive the day again!!
Thankyou all the team at harper weddings and Cain manor
Brooke and Carl
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Jasmine B. Sent on 27/05/2022
5 out of 5 rating

Perfect Day

From beginning to end our day couldn’t have gone any better. Thank you for the best day of our lives, last Saturday! We had the most amazing day, venue looked stunning, staff were fantastic and food was unreal! Dean and the team went above and beyond to make sure everything was in order. I was so calm throughout and couldn’t have chosen a better venue! Thank you for all the support over the last year or so, you’ve all been really helpful.
Hope to visit the venue in years to come and reminisce!
J
John H. Sent on 20/05/2022
5 out of 5 rating

An amazing place

A stunning venue and wonderful staff. Their kindness, diligence and patience in answering our endless enquiries (!) was really amazing. The whole occasion went so smoothly, the friendliness and warmth of the entire staff both in the preparation and on the day itself creating the happiest atmosphere. We have been inundated with compliments in the past few weeks both about the venue and about how welcoming everybody on the team was. Exceptional from first to last.
M
Mr & M. Sent on 09/09/2021
5 out of 5 rating

Cain Manor - The Perfect Day

Our wedding took place at Cain manor on 20.08.21 and the day went off without a hitch. Due to the pandemic, our wedding was postponed on more than one occasion and bijou were more that accommodating to all of our needs. Owner Jo even got in contact to put our minds at ease.

Service from Cain Manor was second to none from the moment we put down our deposit to the moment we departed after our wedding. The venue itself is absolutely stunning making for the most perfect pictures.

The venue offer a wedding planner as part of our package. Maddie was an absolute delight to work with and was able to get back to all our queries and ensure we got the most out of our special day. They also have close connection to a selection of incredible suppliers from florists to photographers all also offering exceptional service.

We are absolutely over the moon with all aspects of our wedding day. Many thanks to the Cain Manor Bijou Team.
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