Congratulations - this is such an exciting time for you!
Now, just imagine your individually-written wedding ceremony at the heart of your day, rather than just a standard script with your names dropped in. Imagine all the things you'd like to include in your wedding ceremony, then tell me about them and let me help you make it happen.
Together, we will create your individual ceremony, which tells your story, and includes anything else you like: any song, poem, reading, or symbolic ritual, such as hand fasting, or a unity candle. I can provide advice and guidance on appropriate readings, songs etc., as well as helping you to write your own vows, if you wish. It's not everyone's cup of tea to write their own vows, and that's absolutely fine, too! I'll be here to write something for you, which is still personal and true to who you are.
It's so important to me that you are completely happy with everything, so we will make as many tweaks and changes as you like until you are sure that it is perfect for you. You won't find any ego here: the only opinion that matters is yours.
As a previous Registrar of Marriage, I have vast experience in the logistics and choreography of ceremonies, so you can be assured that everything will run smoothly, leaving you to simply relax and enjoy every moment.
You will have the opportunity to sign a commemorative certificate, along with two witnesses if you wish, and will also receive a beautiful keepsake copy of your personal ceremony.
You'll also have the memories of a day when you stood in front of your family and friends and said some of the most important words you will ever say to each other, knowing that those words were heartfelt and carefully chosen to reflect your relationship. In the words of one of my couples: "just the way every marriage should start."
Frequently Asked Questions:
Is it a real wedding?
If you mean 'real' in the sense of a legal marriage, then the answer is no. But if 'real' means the day that you truly celebrate your wedding in a way that is meaningful to you, then absolutely yes! It's just a matter of separating the legal from the celebratory. There are particular events in life - birth, marriage and death - which have to be legally recorded at a Register Office, but that’s where the legal requirement ends: how we choose to celebrate, or mark, those events is completely up to us. We accept that we must go to the Register Office to record the birth of a child, or the death of a family member, but we don’t expect the Registrar to turn up at the baby-naming/christening or funeral. A wedding can be treated in exactly the same way - register the marriage at a Register Office; saying the legal words and signing the register, but not exchanging rings or making personal vows (neither of which is a legal requirement) - then celebrate it with a personal, bespoke wedding ceremony!
How much does it cost?
My fee is £650, which includes all travel and accommodation expenses within the UK. For anywhere further afield, please contact me for a quote.
What is included in your fee?
Everything - there are no hidden extras! Contact with me, whether that's in person, by phone, email or Skype. And as much as you need to make sure your ceremony is absolutely right for you. Advice and guidance on the logistics and choreography of your ceremony, and help in choosing appropriate readings, music etc., as needed. The option of including a symbolic ceremony, such as hand fasting or unity candle at no extra cost. Your individual ceremony script, written just for you. A rehearsal in the days before the ceremony, if you would like one. On the day, I will arrive at the venue at least an hour beforehand to liaise with musicians, photographer, venue and anyone taking part in the ceremony. A commemorative certificate for you to sign at the end of the ceremony, along with two witnesses, if you wish. A beautiful, keepsake copy of your ceremony script. All my travel and accommodation expenses within the UK.
Do you cover a particular area?
No. Although I live in West Sussex, I'm very happy to travel to your dream wedding venue, wherever that may be! Travel expenses within the UK are included in my fee, but just let me know if you'd like to go further afield, and I'll send you a quote.
5 Reviews for Perfect Promises
Recommended by 100% of couples
"Just how every marriage should start!"
The professionalism and eye to detail that you gave us in our ceremony was second to none. You asked all the right questions then built the ceremony perfectly around the answers. Without doubt the only way to marry outside of a traditional church wedding. Get the legal requirements done formally then tailor your day in a fun professional way - just how every marriage should start! A truly memorable day made perfect by someone who cared as much about the day as we did. Words really can’t say how much we loved the whole package.Sent on 12/04/2019
Amanda & Steve
"Thank you, thank you, thank you!"
We would highly recommend you as a celebrant for a wedding or to mark any other special occasion for that matter! We were blown away by the special personal touches you gave to our wedding day, from the tear-jerking ceremony wording down to the colour scheme and design of the hand-fasting cord. The printed copy of the wording that you gave us after the event was the perfect finishing touch to remember our special day! From the initial consultation with you and all our correspondence during our wedding planning to the actual day, you were very professional and supportive and gave great advice and guidance, all of which we knew we would get from you when we first discussed hiring you. We actually can't wait for our year anniversary when we will hope to hire you again!! Nothing more to say than thank you, thank you, thank you!!Sent on 12/04/2019
Julia & David
Tanya was very easy to work with and made us feel at ease throughout the process of writing and reviewing the vows and the ceremony. Tanya is a warm and lovely person, she speaks in a gentle yet assured way. We would highly recommend her as a wedding celebrant.Sent on 12/04/2019
Laura & James