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Alex Hilder - Celebrant offers bespoke wedding ceremony services to couples getting married near and far from Tonbridge, Kent. Alex is an independent celebrant passionate about creating soulful, joyful wedding ceremonies for soulful, joyful couples in Kent, the South East and beyond. Alex believes that each couple is unique and, as you have your own life stories and love stories, your ceremony should reflect your authentic journey. Alex will ensure that by the time you leave your ceremony, you and your guests will be on a wave of emotion that will set the tone for the rest of the day.

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To craft you something truly special, Alex will spend time getting to know you really well. She will listen to what you would love to have in your ceremony, what to avoid including, and your inspiration from elsewhere. She also has a wealth of suggestions, such as handfasting or hand-tying (the origin of the phrase 'to tie the knot'), sand ceremonies, gin cocktail-making rituals, ring blessings, and more. She will then craft a totally personalised ceremony that includes everything and everyone you desire.

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Conner K. Sent on 13/05/2024
5 out of 5 rating

We couldn't have had anyone more perfect.

Alex has been absolutley wonderful with us, from our first meeting to every little thing she did to help plan our ceremony & it couldn't have been more perfect. She took great care in planning our ceremony, going over every detail and every little story we mentioned making sure not to miss anything. She even went as far as watching a trilogy of our favorite movies to incorperate it into our ceremony and to help with our vows!

Working with her has been such a pleasure and though the time was short by the end of it, it felt as though she had known us both for years! This especially came through in her ceremony and how she told our story. Her style and approach to planning and execution is very unique and how she was able to make every one of our guests feel very welcome and included in the ceremony helped make everything that much more personal.

All of our guests loved the ceremony and Alex as well and have said on multiple occasions that it's one of the most unique and best ceremonys they have attended.

At the end she has given us a beautiful folder with all of our ceremony's notes and details, our vows and her own wedding certificate, it's something that we'll always treasure. It's a shame to now have finished with her but we'll always be very fond of her because of how special she made our day, you can feel the love and effort she put's into this for each couple and we could not reccomend her more!

Conner & Maya-
Aaron S. Sent on 31/12/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Absolutely amazing

Alex was brilliant made our day everything we could of wanted from start to finish of the ceremony we couldn't be happier.

See you again next year for #babybeans christening

Luchi S. Sent on 31/12/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Nothing but amazing!!

After a huge disappointment with my church, Alex came to the rescue and everything else was history. From start to finish Alex made our wedding the most amazing ceremony! Everyone made comments about how different, personalised and how it was just an “us” ceremony. Such a talented lady and we already miss her!!
Melissa Sent on 31/12/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Perfect Ceremony!

On the 29th December we had the pleasure of Alex leading our wedding ceremony. It was amazing from start to finish, Alex really understood who we are as people and told our love story perfectly. We thoroughly enjoyed working with Alex and would highly recommend her as a celebrant for others.
Louisa K. Sent on 03/09/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Best celebrant ever!!!

* Why did you have a celebrant led wedding?
We met Alex at a wedding fayre. Before meeting Alex we hadn’t considered or thought about a celebrant, however after talking to her we soon realised just how special and personal she could make our ceremony and instantly knew we would love to work with her.
* Was it always planned that way? Did you have any hesitations?
After our initial conversation and first zoom call we had absolutely no hesitations and knew we’d made the right decision in Alex.
* How did you find me?
At a wedding fayre at the Barnyard- our venue!
* Why did you choose to work with me to be your celebrant?
Alex made us feel at ease and so relaxed from the get go. She has such a calming presence and this was so lovely to have on the day. Alex took so much time getting to know us individually and as a couple and captured our story so beautifully- there was absolutely nothing we would change about the whole process.
* What did you like best about working with me?
From start to finish Alex made the process so special- which we wouldn’t have had if we had used a registrar. Alex was such a calming presence on the wedding day for both of us. Nothing was too much to ask!
* Which parts of your wedding ceremony still stick out in your mind and you are really grateful that you did?
The hand tying was so special and we are so pleased we included it- we also love the gift box with the ribbon inside that Alex provided along with the beautiful print out of the ceremony script and certificate.
I wanted to say a huge thank you to Alex for reading a letter I wrote to my late father during the ceremony. Alex read it so beautifully and it was such an important and special moment.
* What was the reaction from your guests and which parts of your ceremony do people still talk to you about?
Having a celebrant!! None of our guests had ever been to a wedding like it! Every single person commented on the ceremony saying how unique and special it was. So many guests told us ‘it was the best ceremony we’ve ever heard!’
* What is the most important thing people should know about working with me?
All of your worries will be put aside! Alex is so passionate about making your ceremony as personable as possible and really has a gift for story telling.
* What advice would you give to other couples planning their wedding?
Take time throughout the day to look around and at one another and take it all in- it went by so quickly! We both tried to relax as much as possible on the day and enjoy every single moment- it was the best day of our lives!
* Would you recommend my services? If so, why and to whom?
We would recommend Alex 100% without any hesitation!! Our ceremony was the most special part of our day and something we will cherish forever. Thank you Alex for giving us such a wonderful gift.
Louise T. Sent on 13/08/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Looking for a celebrant - look no further!

Twelve weeks ago (as we type this review) Alex created the most magical ceremony for us, the memory of which will stay with us and our guests forever!

We knew we wanted a celebrant-led wedding (we planned to have the legal big done separately) as neither of us are particularly religious and wanted something that was special and personalised to us. We had booked calls with 5 celebrants , Alex being the first one we spoke to on Zoom, and we just knew straight away we wanted Alex to be part of our day and knew we didn't need to speak to the other celebrants.

Alex invested a lot of time in getting to know us in the lead-up to our big day. We had Zoom calls, regular WhatsApp messages and were lucky enough to meet in person a few weeks before our wedding.

When we heard about the homework I think we both dreaded it a little bit, but really it was so much fun and a good way to think about why we were getting married, what marriage means to us and why we chose each other. From the homework Alex was able to weave in all of our anecdotes, little sayings and funny stories, there is a real skill here and Alex's way with words is magical.

Alex really cares about making the ceremony as unique and personal as possible. During our calls Alex came up with some great ideas and also prompted us to explore our thoughts and ideas too.

Alex spent time guiding us through the flow of the ceremony and how it would work on the day and this really helped us figure out how and when to involve guests. Our guests loved being involved in the handfasting and readings.

You can see Alex's genuine enjoyment in doing what she does. Her style is warm, calm and inclusive - it's like she is giving you a big hug with her words and our guests all said how amazing she was.

We will cherish the beautiful copies of our vows and homework Alex made for us.

If you are considering a Celebrant-led ceremony please check-out Alex, we have no doubt your experience will be as wonderful and special as ours.
Becky B. Sent on 07/08/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Everything & more

If you're wanting a personal, thoughtful and truly unique ceremony - look no further. Alex, from the moment we met her, made us feel at home. She is so warm, loving, and kind and truly makes you feel special. She has a gift for creating a ceremony that is truly yours and I genuinely think the reason our wedding day was so special was being it started off with Alex leading the way. She cares deeply about us as people and took precious time in ensuring that our ceremony was exactly what we wanted. The amount of people that came up to me after the wedding day asking where we found Alex and then were asking her to create their wedding ceremony is testament to her gift! Thank you Alex - I'd work with you 1000 times over!
Naomi G. Sent on 06/08/2023
5 out of 5 rating

The best experience!

After seeing a few friends get married with a celebrant and how personal their ceremonies were, we knew that is how we wanted to get married. It also meant our legal ceremony could be done a few days before, which took the pressure off the big day and allowed us to invite elderly grandparents who may not have made the big day.
We spoke to a few celebrants but we knew Alex was the one when she really listened to what we wanted and made us feel relaxed.
We wanted something personal but still light hearted/funny and safe to say Alex absolutely nailed the brief. We had 2-3 chats with her over zoom where she asked us a whole range of questions, and came back with a script that covered everything we wanted. She included anecdotes about all the different groups of friends and family in the room and got plenty of laughs (and tears) from everyone there!
Ahead of the day Alex also guided us through all the options for custom vows and gave us lots of examples which helped us to write our own.
On the day - it was so nice to see a friendly face at the end of the aisle! And she prepared a pack with our script and vows printed out which we can keep for the future.
Highly recommend working with Alex to anyone who wants a celebrant lead wedding - thank you again Alex, we wouldn’t change a single thing!!
Evangeline R. Sent on 24/07/2023
5 out of 5 rating

My goodness, where to start.

Alex was, is, an incredible woman, we always knew we wanted an intimate celebrant lead wedding where we could be handfasted in the woods and she delivered! Working with Alex has been an absolute pleasure and despite reading similar reviews of her work and her coming highly recommended she exceeded them all. The amount of effort she put into to our own personal ceremony and her enthusiasm is just incredible and it is clear than this is not just a job for her, its her passion. Having someone light up for you and feel as deeply for this day as you do is the most beautiful experience and our guests absolutely, loved it. We have been married a month now and our family and friends are still approaching us and telling us just how honoured they were to be part of our special day. The day after the wedding my best friend came into my kitchen with tears in her eyes and told us how special it was to be there with us and share our special day with us. So I couldn't recommend Alex enough and also cant thank her enough for making our day so special for not only us but all our loved ones as well.
Yasmin Sent on 31/12/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Alex was the best celebrant we could have wished for!

Alex was an amazing celebrant, who took the time to get know us and tailor the ceremony to exactly what felt right for us. Alex is authentic, fun and just a fantastic person all round. You can tell she really cares about learning about your history and including all the fun details she picks up on during our time together before the ceremony. On the day, she is organised (even remembering to download our ceremony songs which we had forgotten to do) and helps you feel relaxed and at ease during a nerve wracking time. We had feedback from so many guests that it was the highlight of the day and they loved the humanist style. Alex was also so kind in sending us a wedding gift and even giving our friends some tips for when they were running a ceremony later in the summer. What a legend!
Tom M. Sent on 03/10/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Beyond perfect

To put it simply, Alex is so so very good at what she does! I knew what our plan was in terms of how we wanted to get married, but I did not realise that it could be made to be as special as it was. The time, effort, thought, empathy and love Alex put into every part of the process from start to finish (and even now 3 months on) was genuinely so far beyond any expectation that I had. If you’re reading this without speaking to Alex, I can’t urge you enough to speak with her and learn about how she approaches the day and the lead up to it. If you’ve already booked her, well done, you (and everyone of your guests) are going to be blown away. In the lead up, her approach made me and my wife look back and think about the real reasons we are where we are and what brought us to be here. That alone was worth it, but to see how she pieces it all together in the woods end was so special. I am so grateful we had Alex there to deliver our ceremony and the countless compliments from friends and family backed that up. Alex, we can not thank you enough, you’re amazing, thank you!
Chris B. Sent on 11/09/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Personal, professional and simply outstanding

Following a chance meeting with Alex at Coltsford Mill, it completely changed our plans for our wedding and we never looked back. The time and effort Alex put into the ceremony and in getting to know us over the previous 12 months to the ceremony was outstanding. Alex created a completely bespoke ceremony which was so beautifully personal it literally astonished our guests who had never experienced anything like it. We can't thank or recommend Alex enough for making our special day so very memorable.
Charlie C. Sent on 21/07/2023
5 out of 5 rating

Mr & Mrs Corrigan

We always knew we wanted a celebrant led wedding as we liked the idea of being free with ideas of how want our day to go. so we came across Alex on a website and messaged straight away. The communication was perfect, the zoom calls can always be daunting but Alex made us feel completely relaxed. After a few zoom calls Alex put together the most beautiful and perfect ceremony. it was so personal and special to us and our guests absolutely loved it and said they had never heard such a perfect ceremony before. It had tears, laughter and everything we wanted. We wrote our own vowels, our children said a poem and Alex printed it all out in such a beautiful little package we got to keep. I would definitely recommend Alex to anyone she is just so lovely and so down to earth. if i could give my advise to anyone having a celebrant led wedding it would be to have it exactly how you picture it. Nothing is too much or too less 🥰 thank you so much Alex you made our ceremony perfect. Mr & Mrs Corrigan
Emma G. Sent on 16/07/2023
5 out of 5 rating


Well where do we begin... when we discovered the idea of having a celebrant led ceremony we jumped at the thought of having a bespoke, personal ceremony unique to us. By chance we found Alex on instagram then after an initial meeting with our venue they also highly recommened her. Communication was fantastic from the outset and Alex was great at suggesting ideas and elements we could incorporate.

We were both blown away by the time, detail and passion Alex puts into being your celebrant. When we received our first draft we were in tears before the bottom of the page. She really took her time to get to know us and our love story.

We still can't believe how incredibly perfect the ceremony was for us, filled with love, fond memories and laughter, there wasn't a dry eye in the room and Alex incorporated moments where we just paused and took a breathe to just take it all in. The ancedotes, readings and little touches throughout were fantastic, particularly our handfasting which none of our guests had ever experienced before.

We got so many compliments from our guests that they had never been to a ceremony so personal and how amazing it was. Do not hesitate to get in touch with Alex to make your ceremony dreams come true, it's something we'll never forget and we can't thank Alex enough for listening and creating something so uniquely beautiful!

Ellie C. Sent on 07/05/2023
5 out of 5 rating

An amazing celebrant - thank you Alex!

We met Alex at a wedding fair when I was playing with the idea of being married by a celebrant and as soon as I met Alex I knew this was the route we wanted to take and have a really personal and meaningful ceremony.
Alex has a great sense of humour, a warm personality but most of all and importantly, really listens and is interested in your story. Everytime we spoke with Alex we knew we were in capable hands as everything is well organised from all the pre-wedding meetings where you design your ceremony through really personal conversations to make your perfect ceremony.
Our guests loved the day and everyone commented on her personal and special it was. We laughed, cried and celebrated love and life with Alex on the day.
Alex really does think of everything and to now have a beautifully presented copy of our script and memory box is something we treasure forever.
Thank you, Alex for making our ceremony everything we wanted and more. You are a pleasure to work with and we would highly recommend Alex if you are looking for a celebrant for your special day. Ellie and Jack x
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