We got engaged in April and me and my OH finally got round to having our engagement party this weekend (diary clashes etc). As we were driving over, he casually mentioned that he was thinking of asking his solicitor to draw up a pre-nup agreement for me to sign.
To explain, OH gets paid a very good wage and has paid off approx one third of his mortgage, (which in this day and age is very lucky). I earn a moderate wage but I have never been in a position to buy a house until now (we are buying one together after we get married). Also, his Dad has made quite a lot of money over the years so one day he stands to inherit a very generous amount. We have been together for 5 years and living together for 4 years and when I moved in to OH's house, he said I didn't have to contribute anything because it was his house. I have always been an extremely indepent person, so I insisted on paying my half of the bills and we came to the agreement that OH would pay his own mortgage.
I was a it taken aback by beign asked to sign a pre-nup, because I wasn't really expecting it and I'm currently trying to figure out how I feel about it. I can see both sides of it; he is being sensible and trying to protect his assets (if I was him would I do the same??). The other half of my brain is feeling a little bit hurt that he is thinking about this because after 5 years together, I think I have more than proved that I am not marrying him for his money (but then the argument against this is if I don't care about the money it should be no problem signing it right??).
I was just wondering if anyone else out there has signed a pre-nup / been asked to sign a pre-nup? If so, how did you feel about it and what clauses would you / did you put in? I have already said to OH that if we have children, I would want the pre-nup to become null and void - simply to protect our children's interests (this then shocked me that I started thinking like this!!)
Also, what is the general feelings on here towards pre-nups? I would be interested to find out what you all think of them.
Thanks x x x