Church Advice

Personally I would choose another church. I hate being cold and, even more so, I hate uncertainty and not knowing for sure whether I was going to be able to have the church I was hoping for would drive me crazy.

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Sounds like a lot of last minute hassle, what are the other churches' like?

Unfortunately I think I'd choose somewhere else, imagine if you found out 3 months before that you couldn't have it, then have to find a make do place that has your date free

If the church is currently redundant, is it being used at all? Even if you did get approval to use it, would the staff be prepared for a wedding/used to sorting out one & would the facilities be sufficient? Would the water be turned on in the bathrooms, will it be all dusty, will the gardens be overgrown, will the organ/piano be out of tune etc etc etc. I doubt that it would be the same as your childhood memories & a disappointment.

I agree with the others, & book somewhere else. You could always have a blessing at a later date (say your 1st year anniversary) in your preferred church & hopefully by then, it will no longer be redundant.

I think I'd choose somewhere else given the issues you've explained.

But ultimatley you & your OH need to make this decision together.

I wouldn't be able to relax knowing I didn't find out for sure until 3 months before

Are you sure it's only three months before? I would have had to apply for a special licence had we got married in our uni chapel (we didn't in the end for other reasons) and I don't remember it being a problem time wise.

I would book another church, and have a blessing i your special church. You could even arrange the blessing for the day after so if it falls through you will still be married. You won't want the stress of not knowing if you can even be married until 3 months before, I'd be a nervous wreak!