feeling so incredibly low :-(

HUGE HUGE HUGS ☹️

I totally sympathise with the weight issue. I am body dysmorphic, extremely overweight and how I look rules my life. (not in a Katie price way, I dress down and feel and look dowdy, Im a size 16/18 and have a terrible c section hang)However, good on you for starting to run again, wish I had your resolve.

The baby issue - a friend went through a similar thing, it took 2 years of trying, falling out and then just as they both decided it was putting too much of a strain on their relationship she fell pregnant. Can you speak to your partner about how you feel? And maybe he could talk about how he feels too? If you can get past that barrier without arguing and accept each others point of view maybe you then need to put the fun back into the intimate side of your relationship. Maybe a weekend away somewhere where you can have fun together and realise why you are getting married.

Keep your chin up...........babies happen when you least expect it (I know from personal experience) and you have something so positive to occupy you both with your wedding

Good luck xx

Huge hugs!

It sounds like you have 2 very seperate issues. Well done with the running, that'll help boost your body confidence.

The other issue is the trying to conceive and the strain it is putting on your relationship. Do you think you both need to stop trying for a short time and get your relationship back on track (even if you are not using protection but not actively trying if you see what I maen?)? I think both men and women can be v sensitive about feeling the other person wants to have sex with them because they are a baby machine, rather than because they fancy them. Do you think your partner is feeling a bit like that?

I agree, a weekend away or intimate weekend at home where both discussions about weddings and trying to conceive are banned could be a good start? xx

I've put on a lot of weight since the beginning of our relationship (at one point I'd gone from a size 8 to a size 20) so I do sympathise. I'm a bit taken aback by your OH's reaction though, I can't imagine my OH ever calling me names about my weight or appearance because he knows how much it would hurt. With the trying for the baby and the wedding planning, I imagine there's a lot of strain on your relationship right now, but him lashing out at you isn't going to help matters; I agree with the others that you need to talk about it with him. Maybe he thinks he's motivating you to lose weight and not realise he's making you sad?

I read this a few weeks ago and keep thinking of you. I hope everything is ok xx