If your ultimate bff is a guy, and you couldn’t imagine having anyone else as your right hand at your wedding, then go ahead and break the wedding rules.
Having a ‘man of honour’ is a totally acceptable in this day and age and it has so many advantages.
He Will Protect You
Your man of honour can also act as your bridal body guard. He will be the bodyguard for you and all of your girls on the hen do and make sure you are all totally safe. Nothing and no one will touch a hair on your pretty bridal head before the big day if he has anything to do with it, no matter how many cosmos you have.
He Won't Give You Drama
Men are notoriously less dramatic than women and your man of honour won’t ever give you the same aggravation as you’d have if you were dealing with a bad bridesmaid. When you have your daily hissyfit, he will be as cool as a cucumber and probably forget about it within five minutes - we like that!
He Will Keep You Calm
He can keep you cool, calm and collected. When things get stressful and out of control, he can be the glue that holds you together through the entire process.
He Can Give Groom Advice
Having a guy as your wedding sidekick will come totally in handy when it comes to surprising your other half on the wedding day. He’s a man so he knows how a man thinks and what men want. This, combined with your own knowledge of the groom will help you to get your other half the best present in the history of wedding presents.
He Will Never Get Jealous
This isn’t the case for all bridesmaids, but usually with a lot of female personalities around jealousy can play a role. With a Mr as your man of honour, this will never happen. He is never going to get envious of the limelight being on you and that is so important for a bride. It's your wedding and he will always remember that.
He Can Keep You Grounded
Not being a girl wrapped up in all things girly, your man of honour can stay open minded and act as a voice of reason throughout all of your wedding planning decisions. When you start getting carried away with 500 different shades of pink flowers, he can bring you right back down to earth. Having a guy involved in all of the important decisions with an open male mind will help you soo much.
He Isn't Easily Offended
Being a guy, your man of honour is usually less easily-offended than a female would be. So when you are having a totally legit bridezilla moment and breaking down left right and centre, he can be a metaphorical punching bag and will still love you at the end of the day.
He Will Always Be Honest
Honesty is another thing that comes with men and although the truth may hurt sometimes, you will appreciate it when he saves you walking down the aisle in that horrendous wedding dress you loved for five whole minutes. If that isn't saving a life, we don't know what is.
You Can Be Yourself Around Him
You will never ever have to worry about what you look like in front of your man of honour, so when you’ve been crying for 10 days straight trying to do your table plan, he will wipe your puffy eyes and won't even notive their increase in size.
He Can Bring The Muscles
When it comes to your DIY wedding ideas, he will have the stamina to push through the hours of making personalised table cards and thousands of pompoms. He will also come in total handy when three of your bridesmaids need help walking after the worlds best bridal shower.
He Will Make The Best Spy
Even though he’s your man of honour, if he has a good relationship with your groom, he is most likely to be invited on the stag do and can be your personal spy to make sure your future hubby to be doesn’t have one shot too many – now that is what friends are for. He can also be your look out to ensure that the best man and ushers don't have anything crazy planned that will add to your already unreasonable wedding worries.
He Can Hint To The Groom
Being close to the groom has its other advantages too. When your husband to be is planning surprises for you during the lead up to the wedding and on the wedding day, your man of honour, who knows you better than you know yourself, can give him the best tips and advice to make sure he gets it right.
He'll Never Show You Up
You have to be a pretty bold man to wear an all-white suit to a wedding so you'll never have to worry about that and he will also make no attempt to out-shine you on your wedding day. He'll look as smart as ever in a super funky suit and will never make you go through the hassle of dress shopping with him – thank goodness for that.
He Can Be The Voice of Reason
If you and your future husband have any disagreements or difference in opinion with the wedding planning, your man of honour can be there to give you a male’s perspective. This is so handy and you are more likely to listen to him than anyone else, after all, he is your BFF.
He Can Be Your Chamber of Secrets
During the wedding planning process there will be plenty of things that you want to keep a secret from your guests, like your wedding dress, the first dance song and other little surprises. Having a man on side gives you the perfect chamber of secrets. He won’t tell a soul because let’s be honest, guys just don’t gossip like us women.
He Will Always Listen
As much as we assume men are creatures of habit and do guy stuff in guy ways, they can actually be really good listeners and that is exactly what every bride needs by her side when she’s planning a wedding. Sometimes you really just need someone to talk to and he can be your rock and a silent dependant while you offload all of your stress.
He Will Lighten The Mood
When your breakdowns hit an all time wedding planning low, he will lighten the mood with funny gags and silly jokes. In theory you may not think this is what you need but trust us, laughing is the best therapy! Once you've had a good old giggle, you will be back to your female-boss self in no time.
He Will Keep You Fit
When it comes to getting the dream wedding body, working out is the best way to go about it and your man of honour will put your fitness to the test. Guys are usually better work-out partners as they are used to playing sports and sweating all day. You may hate it at the time but having your guy BFF put your running skills to the test and pushing you to your limits will all be for the better in the end.
He's Strong Enough For...
Shopping! Buying things for a wedding goes way past the bridesmaid dresses and accessories. We're talking table decorations, shoes, and everything that comes with it and who better to carry all of the bags than your big muscly man of honour.
He Will Never Take Your Rubbish
Out of everyone in your bridal party, your man of honour will be the one that stands up to you and tells you when you are being a complete bridal diva. Not that there's anything wrong with that... But when you are having a meltdown over Auntie Pat asking for a plus one, he will remind you what's really important and that is what a bride needs.
He's Your Best Friend
The most important reason why having a male maid of honour is awesome is because he is your best friend in the world. He's your rock and the most important man in your life (obviously after your gorgeous husband to be) and you wouldn't want anyone else by your side when you marry the love of your life. Tradition means nothing if you're not doing it with the people you love the most.
Now you have your right hand man sorted, its time to allocate all of the other roles and figure out how to put together the ultimate bridal squad.