We’re getting married in October and I chose my friend of nearly 20 years to be my MOH & only bridesmaid. She got a new boyfriend in December having been single for a long time. Since I asked her to be MOH at the beginning of March, she has cancelled any plans we’ve made to make arrangements for the wedding, without offering any suitable dates/times to rearrange. (An example of reasons she couldn’t do it...”I’d forgotten I’m at my cousin’s leaving do this weekend” and “my boyfriend has a problem with his wisdom tooth & I think it’s infected”
Lockdown hit and it’s proved really difficult to plan & organise anything due to suppliers/venues being closed & uncertainty about whether the event will resemble anything that we planned, if it can go ahead at all! Now one of our venues has gone into administration & we’re trying to find a replacement...all very stressful!
We’re less than 5 months away from the big day & we haven’t even managed to have a conversation about her role in the day...in fact she’s been noticeably absent from all forms of communication since I asked her to be MOH (unless I’ve contacted her).
Maybe I’m expecting too much...if the tables were turned I’d be getting in touch with her when lockdown hit to ask how it affected the wedding & whether she needed any support. Is it not the MOH’s job to help to support the bride & help relieve the stress of wedding preparation? Right now I feel like she’s adding to it!