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  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 8:30

    Asking for contributions towards honeymoon

    Hi everyone, my H2B and I would like to ask people to contribute towards our honeymoon, rather than buy us gifts, as a) we have lived together for years and have everything we need, and b) live abroad, so flying everything back with us would be a nightmare! I was just wondering how other people that did this, worded it on their invitations? I don't want to come across as grabby....Thank you!

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 8:39

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    My other half's workmate did this. They found a really cute, funny poem online about how they already had pots and pans etc and were really in need of a holiday, and included it on the ba ck of the invitation. I thought it was brilliant!

    Just use the power of google! Big Smile

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 9:19

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    Don't have a gift list at all, most people will give cash.

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 9:24

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    My friends said something along the lines of "Your presence at our wedding is all that we hope for, but if you would like to make a further gift then we would very much appreciate money towards our honeymoon fund" Nobody said anything about it being inappropriate, and they received exactly what they asked for - lots of cash for the honeymoon Smile

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 9:45

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    hi

    this is what we have done, we included the poem on a little business size card,

    We are sending out this invitation


    In hope you will join our celebration


    If a gift is your intention


    May we take this opportunity to mention


    We have already got a kettle and toaster


    Crockery, dinner mats, and matching coasters. 


    So rather than something we have already got


    We would appreciate money for our honeymoon pot


    But most importantly we request


    That you come to our wedding as our special guest

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 9:51

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    I find all the money poems rather twee I'm afraid, not a fan.

    We want cash over gifts in all honesty, but we won't be asking, we've mentioned it to mother in law and my mum though, sure they can point people in right direction of letting others know.

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 9:51

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    I find all the money poems rather twee I'm afraid, not a fan.

    We want cash over gifts in all honesty, but we won't be asking, we've mentioned it to mother in law and my mum though, sure they can point people in right direction of letting others know.

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 10:09

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    IshouldCoco:

    I find all the money poems rather twee I'm afraid, not a fan.

      

    Sorry i agree! were just putting  Gifts- Although you attending the wedding is a gift enough, for those who wish to give us something we would appreciate cash to put toward a honeymoon.

    We got an invite to a friends wedding this year that says "Gifts:  Any gift will be gratefully received, however, the bride and grrom would prefer either cash or vouchers for *said travel agent*

    I loved the straight forward approach of what they wrote. personaly i HATE buying gifts for weddings and find the fight to buy stuff off there list without spending  £££££££  or having to choose something they will proberly be selling on ebay post honeymoon really stressfull!

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 10:39

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    I'm not a fan of the poems either, I much prefer the straight up approach (my cousin used buymyhoneymoon although i think lots of people just put money in an envelope rather than going to the website and choosing a trip or something for them). I have quite a few friends say (about other people's weddings) that they thought asking for honeymoon money was crass, so you'll never win!

    I'm thinking I just won't bother with a list or even a specific request for money. One thing I did see somewhere and I thought was quite sweet was for the thank you cards get a photo of you both on the honeymoon with a little 'thank you' sign being held up, think we might do that, or might even take a little chalk board and write a personal message for each gift and then print them myself...

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 11:04

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    The poems are just awful and almost make me not want to give anything on principle.

    I think a direct line is ok, people will want to get you something and them knowing it will be appreciated is the main thing.

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 11:06

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    Another who is not a fan of poems - I received the one cited above in a recent invitation and found it a bit sickening. I think no gift list is risky (in case you end up with 25 photo frames and 25 kettles!) but if you want money and don't feel uncomfortable asking for it, just come out and say it!

    A friend of mine was horrified when her step-brother asked for money towards their honeymoon, and then was recently moaning that none of the guests had so far given them any (wedding is soon). She then explained he has a ferrari, and if a honeymoon was so important, maybe he should sell his car rather than greedily expecting his much-less-well-off friends and family to fund it! I'm sure you're not in this category, but plenty of people ARE that cheeky which is why I think some people feel slightly insulted to be asked for cash.

    Posted: 15 Apr 2012 11:08

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    If you want to book the honeymoon before the wedding invites go out then you can pay a deposit (say with Kuoni) and then set up a gift list with them so guests can contribute towards it. 

    If you want to book it at a later date then just ask for vouchers - even though it amounts to the same thing it tends to be less frowned upon than asking for money.

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 11:14

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    Wow, thank you everyone for all of your replies. I was worried that if we didn't specify anything, we would end up with loads of random items that we didn't really need and that would end up being relegated to my mum's attic!

    It's difficult - some people seem to think that asking for money/vouchers/contributions to a honeymoon fund is perfectly acceptable, whilst others think it's incredibly crass.

    I am becoming more and more tempted to not include anything on the invitation and if people ask, then I will direct them to a honeymoon fund. I just wonder how many people will actually ask?!

    Posted: 15 Apr 2012 11:22

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    vivalasvegas:

    I am becoming more and more tempted to not include anything on the invitation and if people ask, then I will direct them to a honeymoon fund. I just wonder how many people will actually ask?!

    this is what my intention is. I think people will ask is a gift list or what to do re gifts bit we'd feel cheeky asking upfront even using one of those poems that do the rounds

     

  • Posted: 15 Apr 2012 11:33

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    We directed them towards our wedding website, where we had made a list of experiences and the costs for when we go to Mexico. On the invite info it just says something like we don't expect anything at all, but if you do wish to give a gift we would appreciate money towards our honeymoon. Straight and to the point, which people have said they appreciated.

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