Hi ladies
i just wanted a little bit of advice really. I’m the maid of honour for my friends wedding in August. She asked me to organise three hen do’s - one abroad in Benidorm, one back home for family and another for a big night out for work friends.
Benidorm was all sorted and was working out at just over £100 each which was more than do-able but last month she rang to say she wanted me to cancel Benidorm (no flights had been booked yet and hotel was free cancellation) as she now didn’t feel comfortable wearing swimming wear as she hasn’t lost as much weight as she had hoped and change it to Amsterdam. Due to the last minute trying to find accommodation in Amsterdam the prices were expensive so it’s now worked out at £240 for people. The numbers have dropped down from 14-6 due to the cost which is understandable.
I have had had to pay for the brides flights out of my own pocket so my cost has gone to £480 without even getting there and spending a penny. I have finally managed to get a new job after 2 years of night shifts which starts next Tuesday so I’ve gone from my final weekly pay this week until now not getting paid until the last day in July and my car has been written off so now have to use my savings for the hen do to purchase a car.
I messaged the bride early early this week (due to go tomorrow) to say the complete truth and that I was sorry I couldn’t go and that I would still pay my share of the hotel so it wouldn’t affect anyone else but I can’t afford the spending money now. She sent me back a lovely understanding text and I was so relieved but then the phone calls started and she ended up pressuring me into saying I would accept a £250 loan from her until. I reiterated that I’m not the sort of person who lends money of friends and I don’t want to have another debt looming over my head when we are living tight this month.
Am am I being completely unreasonable if I put my foot down and say I’m not going (bear in mind her other hen do’s are in two weeks where I will have to fork out another £100+)