Hi all,
I need your advice on a bit of a touchy issue. Bit of a long story but I thought I had best give some background...
I have known a particular guest since I was about 14 years old. We hung about in the same group of friends and our relationship has always been quite turbulent ranging from very close to 'frienemies' to just outright falling out with each other.
Anyway about 7 years ago me and this girl fell out, I thought she was selfish and we had an argument where we both said some hurtful things. Fast forward 4 years later we made up and became very close, so close in fact i remember saying that if I ever got married she would be a bridesmaid.
Anyway the relationship was souring from this point onwards and came to breaking point (for me anyway) when we went on holiday just the two of us about 2 years ago. It was horrific, I thought she was incredibly selfish and shallow and all the reasons why we initially fell out came flooding back to me.
Since then I have distanced myself (not fallen out with her) and to be fair its not been too hard to do as she has not made hardly any effort.
I gave her a save the date for my wedding about a year ago but haven't seen or even spoken to her since. I think her lack of effort is also partly due because I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid.
I dont overly like her and although I would always be civil towards her I am now wondering whether I should now only invite her to the evening do.
What do you think? It will completely kick off if I do this but otherwise i am paying a lot of money for a meal for her and her bf.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Do you think that as i have already given her a save the date i am obliged to invite her to the day?
Thanks!!! xx