We have booked our wedding for 09/10/20 at a lovely beach front hotel in the UK and got a really good deal of £5,700 for 50 day guests with a sit down meal, 30 evening guests, a buffet, DJ, overnight stay after the wedding etc etc. However, I have started to majorly stress over money.
We don’t want to be saving and planning for years and it’s important to us to get married next year as we would like to move house, discuss having a baby etc and at 34 (me) and 38 (him) we don’t want to hang around too long.
I was looking at an original budget of 12K for the wedding and £6-7K for the honeymoon however I really don’t want to be scrimping and saving for the next year and a half and I have a lot on this year in terms of already booked holidays, house decorating etc etc. He already has the money saved and I feel bad about him spending his savings on something that I want (he wants to get married abroad but is happy to have the UK wedding if it makes me happy).
So, I’ve been thinking of scrapping the formal UK wedding and getting married abroad and incorporating this into our honeymoon. This would save us around half of what we originally planned, if we have a party when we get back.
I am thinking of asking the venue if we can keep the date and change it to an evening reception with speeches, first dance, a buffet etc. I appreciate we will probably have to pay for the DJ and the overnight stay. We have paid a £500 deposit but the contract states if we cancel more than 12 weeks before, we only lose 20% of it (£100). I have paid a £300 deposit for the photographer but I would like to keep her for our reception and hope she may do it cheaper as it will only be for the evening.
Has anyone else got married abroad? Did you book through a travel agent?
I have worked out that my priorities are 1) us being married 2) the dress 3) speeches 4) celebrating with everyone. I really can’t muster any enthusiasm for spending loads of money on flowers, invitations, favours etc and all of the nitty gritty details.
I appreciate that not everyone will be able to come but i’m Happy to celebrate back at home instead. The only issue is that I have already asked six close friends/family to be bridesmaids and I estimate that three of them may not be able to afford to come to the wedding.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading x