I really need help, I’m not even engaged yet but my OH is going to propose to me in a few months (I found out) and I have massive anxiety. The idea of him going on a stag do would make me so worried and completely take any excitement out of planning a wedding or getting married. I’m totally against strip clubs , lap dances etc, I know there’s no right or wrong but I feel like the issue is respecting each others boundaries in a relationship. We’ve been together 3 years and I can’t stop worrying. I asked him ‘ what would you do if your friends hired you a stripper?’ And he said ‘well I couldn’t just walk away could i?’ And it’s been playing on my mind so much I might even tell him I don’t want to get married. I want to enjoy my wedding planning, and knowing his friends, his stag wouldn’t just be one night in this country, it’d be a week in magaluf or something like that. And it hurts that he’d just sit there in a strip club and let it all happen when I’d be sitting at home in bits, worrying and falling apart. I know it seems over dramatic but I really suffer with anxiety and I don’t know what to do. I think if he wouldn’t do it in front of me, he shouldn’t do it at all, and he wouldn’t be happy if I was giving out lap dances . If he came home and told me that something like that had happened, there wouldn’t be a wedding.
I just can’t understand why you would celebrate a marriage by being intimate with another woman, and I’ve always wanted to get married, but the fact that when I asked him and he couldnt reassure me , puts me right off.
I just need some advice please before I go insane
thank you