A sensitive topic arrises in this post;
I'm really struggling with the idea of changing my surname to my future husband's, we've had twin boys (one was sadly stillborn) and they both have my partner's surname making me the odd one out. I've moved from Wales to England to be with my partner, so I feel a part of my heritage got lost when I moved and now my son won't have the experience of growing up in Wales either, and now changing my Welsh surname to an English surname feels wrong. I've looked down the road of everyone taking my surname instead of keeping my partner's, having my son's surname changed would be easy enough to do, but my baby who was stillborn can only have a correction on his death certificate meaning he couldn't have his changed as it's not a mistake.
I have people calling me by my partner's surname in hospitals when my son is admitted because he has his Dad's surname and it feels wrong.. I've thought about double barrelling my last name with my partner's Jones-James but they start with the same letter and it sounds ridiculous. I don't want people to question whether or not I am my son's mother, which has happened before. I'm a bit at a loss and with less than 2 months until the wedding, I've still not come to a decision and it's upsetting me.