I was just wondering if anyone had any recommendations for eloping. My OH and I have been together for a wee while, and while we both want to BE married, neither of us can be bothered with the drama a wedding would cause us. There’s family drama on both sides. I had a falling out with my parents, which I doubt we will ever reconcile over. They are not nice people and have become isolated as a result. We were at my sibling’s wedding recently and my parent’s were so rude... just had a face on them the whole night and I could tell they were annoying my brother and his now wife. Her family were so welcoming and tried so hard to connect with them, but they just didn’t want anything to do with them at all. They clearly did not want to be there, and it was a really nice ceremony and the reception was really fun. Both my OH and I were angry that they had acted like that.... they barely spoke to me at all as well, and what they did say were just passive aggressive comments. Mainly, however they just sat there grumpy. I get that not everyone is a wedding person. But you put on a brave face and just get on with it. It angers me that they didn’t care enough to even try.
It made me realise that I didn’t want them there when it was my turn and my partner and I have decided that eloping is probably for us. Just so that we don’t have to explain why family members we don’t want there, weren’t there and to keep the stress down. My mum would be really offended and make my life miserable if she found out I had a wedding and didn’t invite her, which I know sounds crazy judging by what I’ve written above, but it’s just the way she is. If I just said we eloped I think it would be easier as well... no one would be there. My OH has similar issues, with his dad and his partner. Drama would be caused by people refusing to accept they just aren’t invited. It’s a stress neither of us want.
So, I was wondering if anyone has any similar stories, and what they decided to do. Did you “run away” or did you stay where you live? How did you tell your friends who you would have liked there and how did they take it? Or did you decide to not elope and just told people they weren’t coming and that was that. I would like to hear other people’s advice, good and bad.
We would like to stay in the UK for it, preferably Scotland (as we’re both born and raised here!). But I saw a gorgeous place in Cornwall. I’m not totally against Gretna Green, there are some nice venues there and it’s cheap! But I think we would both prefer the city, maybe Edinburgh or Glasgow, we don’t drive so public transport as well (a modest taxi ride would be fine from a train or bus station, like half an hour or so kind of thing). Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. I know it’s a long post!