Maybe have another chat with your OH, it's not air of him to dismiss your feelings so quickly and without consideration. I'm a firm believer that when you marry, you are setting up a partnership for your life, so make sure you get the basics right before you walk down the aisle.
I think your compromise of family to the ceremony and friends to reception sounds fair. Maybe if he has a couple of very close friends, you could each extend it that far? I know it can be difficult, my fiance would rather have his friends than his family at our wedding (which is why it's ended up so big!), but he needs to explain this to you rather than dismissing it out of hand.
Similarly, if I were your fiance, I'd be a little concerned at you referring to your wedding day as boring.
Whilst I get it, and I'm well aware that many grooms probably feel a little bit like that(!), if you really don't want a wedding day, it's almost not fair on your partner to go through the motions if your heart isn't in it. I really think you need to talk to him about this, calmly, as soon as possible.