Not feeling any wedding excitement at all

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  • Posted: 12 Mar 2019 23:22

    Not feeling any wedding excitement at all

    We're in the preliminary stages of planning our wedding and I'm struggling to find any motivation to do it. I just want the marriage with my lovely other half. I have no interest in planning a wedding.

    I hate being centre of attention, I don't ''do" dressing up and I can't bear the thought of putting myself into debt (after spending most of my life trying to get out of it) so my friends and family can have a meal and a pissup. 

    My fiancé has a huge family and friendship group too, I don't. There are 80 people on the guestlist for the ceremony already and I'd only be able to pick 20 of them out of a line up. Eloping isn't an option as the close friends and family I do have, I want to be there.

    I don't even know what advice I need, I just wanted to vent!

    Everyone looks horrified when you say you're hugely disliking wedding planning, as if it somehow has relevance to the  health of your relationship. My sister-in-law to be offered to help with planning and for us to go to a wedding fair. Which is lovely of her, but I don't want to wander round pretending my £3k budget will run to anything these companies are offering. 

    Honestly feeling like cancelling the whole thing at the moment. 

     

     

     

  • Posted: 14 Mar 2019 10:43

    Re: Not feeling any wedding excitement at all

    Aww, I'm so sorry you feel this way! 

    Why don't you have a proper sit down chat with your fiancé and tell him exactly how you feel. Maybe agree to cut the guest list right down in the day, and invite everyone else to the evening? In all honesty, I totally get where you're coming from - I always wanted the big white wedding, but now that it's actually come down to it, I wish we were having a much smaller day part at least. We originally planned for about 60 day guests, but that has now spiralled up to 90. 

    Seriously - have the talk now, it's your day too, and you need to be happy. X

  • Posted: 14 Mar 2019 11:33

    Re: Not feeling any wedding excitement at all

    I'm similar..

    I wanted to elope but that was a no go due to family size and disappointing everyone. Now we've booked our venue which I do love and photographer but I'm not at all excited.

    Everyone else cant wait for the day but I just want to forget about it. My maid of honour is flying back from travelling just to go dress shopping but I'm dreading it.

    Cant stand being center of attention either, I'm probably going to spend the whole day stressed and go to bed early.

    We have just had a very close family bereavement so that's made me feel even worse about the whole thing.

     

  • Posted: 14 Mar 2019 12:27

    Re: Not feeling any wedding excitement at all

    Talk to your fiance, at the end of the day the day needs to suit you both. My partner wanted a wedding with everyone there in some fancy place, so we compromised and only have 36 adult guests and 8 children in a nice place which cost £2000 as  a base price for the meal for 40 people, welcome drinks, 4 rooms etc. There are some fantastic places which can fit your budget.. I stayed well away from wedding fayres, I noticed the quotes they gave there were more than if I called them up. There's nothing wrong with getting married in a registry office with yoyr nearest and dearest, then having a party where everybody can attend.. You don't want to go looking for places and prices if it's not what you want. Good luck xx

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