My 1st family (non)invitation issue - its craaaazzzy!!!!

I think a lot of time people they want the free food and booze!!!!! i'm amazed at how many random facebook friends that i haven't spoken to since i left school have asked if they are invited....er no i don't know you that well to folk out for £40 for you to eat a slap up meal!!!! cheeky monkeys.....and distant families are just as bad. i think alot of people think that a wedding is a free family party...if only it was free!!!!

Glad your not upset Gillsy, I think I would have the raving hump if that was me! I think Cola is right, alot of people are so cheeky and they do just want a "free" night out. My parents have been invited to alot of weddings over the years and the majority of them I havent been invited to, hasnt bothered me in the slightest, esp if I dont know the couple!

Why have i got a sneaky feeling I have all this to come....

Did you tell him to get stuffed? lol

Hi Gillsy. If its open house can I come with o/h, mother, daughters, sons and anyone else that would like a day out? x

Lainey - OH politely told BIL that we were restricted by numbers and we really needed to wait until all of the RSVPs had come in before we would know whether we had any more spaces free.

dlvesje - why not - bring everybody you know...lol

If its a free for all what time would you like me and OH to to arrive!? x

Hey Moya, get to the back of the queue, It will be standing room only by the time I gat there with my lot xx

Man that's crazy! We're having OH's cousins (who I've never met) and MIL said "Oh well, their mother is going to probably expect an invite" - that's the widow of her brother.

Families are a total pain in the ass!!!

I haven't even sent my invitations out yet but we have been telling people that we are not having any children there, apart from the ones involved in the wedding. As soon as one of my Aunties got her Save The Date card she phoned me to say she would not be coming as her 18 month old grandaughter had not been invited. So we won't even be sending her an official invitation.

Well gillsy let me know when you get all your rsvp's, if its a free house me and my immediate family of 21 people would love to come!

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Should have told them the buffet was £5 per head including the kids.. hehe might have changed their mind in a flash!

Claire that is out of order, I wouldn't let either of her friends or their kids come to the party.

Oh Gillsy, do you know the worst thing is, your right, their kids won't even want to come! What is the point in you paying for a meal etc for people who don't want to be there!

Im glad you told her no!

Thats really cheeky, if my friends sister was having a party (engagement or not) i wouldn't even think of asking if i could come. i wouldn't want my mate to ask for me either!

We've said we're only inviting aunties/uncles (no cousins except 2 of mine that are more like sisters) to keep the numbers down. if all cousins n their kids came it would make it an extra 30 people! My parents n in-laws both said fine straight away, it was H2B that was saying if auntie comes then her daughter should be there, then her brother (n 3 kids!) would feel left out if he doesn't come! I wrote the list with just auntie/uncles on it then gave it to his parents, asked if they thought we'd left anyone out, they came back n said 2 cousins that are 13 & 16 n would be home alone all day if they didn't (all other cousins have left home)

Claire that is totally outrageous - I think I would be going back to your sister and saying I'm sorry but your friends and their kids can't come to the engagement party. Shocking behaviour!!!!! I did laugh when the second set of friends got invited with a "but they've only got 2 kids" - well thats ok then. No worries......lol

I should probably mention at this point that the 3 kids in question that BIL wants invited are actually grown up kids all in their 20's. Not that this really makes a difference but I'm sure if they were invited they would expect their partners also to be invited and so it grows arms and legs!!! Their names aren't down, their not getting in!!!!!!

Well ladies - I'm looking forward to meeting you all at my wedding - I'll just need to check the maximum numbers the place can hold but I'm sure we'll be fine ?

Everybody justs enjoys a good wedding!!! Its crazy when other people feel they can invite their own guests to your wedding. This is 1 part I'm definetely not looking forward too. My sisters are both my bridesmaids (I'm having 5 because I couldn't have just them, need my friends but couldn't have not had them as my life wouldn't have been worth living!) & I've asked them to organise my hen weekend for me & I got an email this week asking if they could both bring a friend with them!! I think I know who they'll bring & they're both nice but quiet girls but I thought the point of the hen night was for me to have people around that i'm close to & give them a chance to get to know each other.

Oh dear, I've ranted, sorry.

Hope you all manage to sort out your troublesome families without too much stress

I was talking to my Aunt last week about her invitation, and during the discussion she just came out with "I think we will bring our friends Mary and Eric"!!!!

WTH I don't even know these people!

Seems like a common theme.

why would people do that???? Do they have no concept of weddings, numbers, budgets etc???? Its NOT a free for all!!!!!!

Glad I'm not the only one casiongirl!!!

In your BIL's case, is it because the day of your wedding is also the day he see's his girls and wanted to see if he could bring them along because he didn't want to miss out on seeing them?

Just a question...

Hey Tahdah - OHs BIL's kids are actually grown ups in their 20s and I don't think he has any "set" days that he sees them and it certainly wouldn't be a Friday as hes a teacher so would normally be working.

Ah yes sorry didn't read thoroughly enough...in that case no they're not allowed!

lol tahdah ?