Hi all ,
I’m really after a bit of advice regarding my hen do , Sorry for the length of the post in advance!
I’m getting married next year and one of my best friends has booked the hen do. I’m not meant to know any of the details as it was all meant to be a surprise.
However last week when she was drunk she was showing me something in her e mails and scrolling through them, she said ‘oh that’s just the hen do venue’. I saw the name of the place we were staying in the subject line and couldn’t help but to look it up to see where it was.
The venue is gorgeous for a holiday, not for what I wanted for my hen do. It’s a huge house in the middle of nowhere and a 4 hour drive away from where I live. ( I had asked for it to be close by about an hour or 1.5 hours max as my nan is not in good health.). I wanted to go to a city have cocktails and something silly like a strip show for a bit of a laugh.
I have also since found out we are going on a Monday – Friday ( I asked for it to be a weekend )and not planning on doing anything but staying in the house. This means I and other people in my group are having to take a whole week off work to come to it! I wanted 2 other of the girls in my office to come but we can’t have that many off work at once for that length of time.
It’s also a lot more expensive than what I suggested. 2 people have already dropped out because of how much it will be (£300+ just for the accommodation alone each) Probably with food/ drink and travel etc it going to be about £500 minimum. It’s really upset me that my friends who I want to be there feel they can’t afford it. When booking it she didn’t consult any of my bridesmaids and I feel she’s done it as a bit of a holiday for her rather than a hen do that I wanted. It’s quite a mix of people and I feel that length of time and confined space is going to be really awkward.
Obviously I’m really grateful for the work my friend has put in, but it’s not at all what I wanted from my hen do- am I completely out of order to step in and change it? Any advice how I might bring the subject up with her without coming across a complete utter ungrateful cow :( ?