My future husband loathes hymns whereas I adore sacred music. He knew a church wedding was important to me but I want him to feel comfortable. My non-religious friends tell me they'd rather be spectators to the music than feel forced to sing. So we have drafted the following:
2x hymns
1x psalm (sung)
1x anthem
1x scripture reading
2x secular readings
Then for the signing of the register is another short anthem and a piece of secular music we both love. And there is in/out music as you'd expect (both secular)
Is this ok? All the music and readings are short (I think the longest is 4 minutes for the register and the shortest is 90 seconds). My fiance wants to keep it at about 45 minutes whereas I was aiming for closer to an hour. I had hoped there would be room for some more sacred music (3.5 minutes but probably could be shortened) but I'm worried I am getting carried away. I've not allowed time for the sermon but our priest has assured me he likes to keep things short!
If we do need to cut things - how?!?! I just love it all so much it is so much a part of how I worship and I feel that spiritually I need elements of this on my wedding day.
How long is your ceremony and what choices are you having?
Any advice would be great.