I have really struggled with this because I really didnt want ANY gifts, most of my frinds are skint buying houses, having babies, travelling and I didnt want them to have to spend more money juts becuase we have decided to tie the knot.
However when I thought about it, I like buying prezzies, and I would not turn up completley enmpty handed to a wedding, most people I spoke to said they would be glad if we had a list becuase they want to get us something, and the majority seemed to prefer a list rather than giving cash.
I think im going to go for a gift list or ikea vouchers as we are renovating our house, but going to be very frank in saying that we do not expect anything. A friend of my OH is getting married soon, they had a gift list and I quite liked the fact that we could choose something for them, they had a range of budgets too with things starting at £3 which I thought was good.
Personally I dont particularly like givng people cash for honey moons, I do like choosing the pressie myself, and I also feel a little like why should people pay for us to have lush holiday just becuase we are getting married when they might be struggling on a really tight budget, at least with Gift list prices can vary a bit. I think its a psychological thing tho becuase I wouldnt mind giving vouchers for a travel agent for exmaple, ( this may be becuase I have been to a few weddings where people have asked for honeymoon cash and never had the honeymoon!)
This is such a hard one tho! I agree with the comment that you cant please everyone!