Hi all,
so this seems to be a very common thing as I have seen in previous posts, but here we go.
I picked my three closest friends as my bridesmaids. Two of them are absolute gems and I dont know what id do without them, but the other one has turned out to be quite a toxic person. I've been friends with her since I was 14 and we were inseparable for so long, but as I've grown up, I realised that there are some traits of hers that I really can't get on with. She *** about her friends all the time (which makes me wonder what she says about me), and its like she can't be happy for other people. Her and her partner (who is also a groomsman at my wedding - him and my fiance are close) just seem to be bitter about everything, and are very jealous people who tend to hate it when the attention is not on them. They moved away a while back and since then never make the effort and I dont even talk to my her anymore - only when theres an occasion. They can be very nasty towards their friends and I just think they give off such negative energy.
They asked us to be bridesmaid and groomsman at their wedding. It stressed me out so much, but we decided to go for it, as we didn't have the heart or the guts to say no, and besides, we did still love them.
Once we got engaged shortly after, I suppose we did the cowardly thing and asked them to be a part of our wedding too, as we thought it was only fair. at first we were glad that we made the decision and hoped that it might bring us all closer, but they have been awful friends and I know deep down that they arent really even that happy for us. I think our friendship has been running on habit, and me and my fiance have said that once the wedding is over, we probably wont be friends anymore.
It is really sad, that we will be spending all this money on them and they will be such a huge part of our big day, when deep down, we know the friendship isnt the same - in fact, we are even worried that they will be negative towards our wedding day in bitterness.
Its completely our fault for asking them as bridesmaid and groomsman, and there's no going back now i know - i can't dump them, but has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice on how I can get through it without feeling so stressed?
We do love them but they are too toxic and its such a shame!