Help with colour scheme?

If I were you, I'd pick the dress that you want to wear, and go from there. The dress shop may have some ideas of colours and styles that would work well for bridesmaids alongside your dress, whatever colour you choose. Does the groom have any preference on colour?

Although if you would like to wear white, I think you should wear it. Anyone who laughs at you behind your back should not be on the guest list anyway!

I think gold and a very pale pink would look lovely. Or you could keep things neutral, for example your dress could be gold/metallic and the bridesmaid dresses a nude/champagne colour. I agree with a previous comment, find your dream dress first and the dress shop can recommend bridesmaid colours.

The white dress really isn't a "thing" any more - perhaps maybe with your nan !.

I would say that I would only see about 5% of my weddings that have a true white dress, but there are many shades of almost white - some so light that you would need to hold it up to a true white dress to see the difference. Antique white, vintage white, pearl, oyster - the list goes on. But one dress shops antique white will look different to another.

A proper gold sounds fantastic.