Hi everyone, I'm new here and need some advice.
I don't have many friends and my hen do is going to consist of probably 10-12 people, all of whom I'm very close too - mostly family.
I'm not really a "night out" person but I kind of felt pressured to do that as everyone seemed to think that's what I would do so I panic-booked an apartment in Chester. It was non-refundable and I only booked it as I didn't want to be stuck with no accomodation. Anyway, I decided this wasn't for me a few months later, mainly when I realised I was getting NO help from my BMs with planning and also because not all my friends know eachother and I didn't want to be stuck with the awkwardness of making sure everyone mingles.
So then I thought, I'll just do something at home and have loads of daft games, cocktail making etc. I thought about hiring a hot tub, like a proper one not inflatable. Then we could have a beach themed party on autumn. Has anyone else thrown a hen party at home? Does this sound like a good idea? I'm sure my hens would like it but I don't want anyone to be bored.
I've also lost one of my bridesmaids as she promised me the earth when I first got engaged, saying she would butolan s my hen etc. She had a baby in January, made lots of mummy friends on an app and long story short she didn't have any interest in the wedding at all or me as a friend for that matter since she found these new friends that she has lots in common with. I gave her an out and she took it without hesitation. Now she's gone and the onus isn't on her for planning, my sister in law has stepped up in helping and I'm sure she would help with anything I asked her as she is that kind of person. But I do feel like I'm on this alone, and it gets me down. I feel like I shouldn't have to ask my BMs for help but everyone keeps telling me I shouldn't have to plan my own hen so what should I do?