Children invited

We have 2 children in our bridal party (flower girls, and fiance's nieces). My two cousins are older children and they are invited. We are basically saying babes in arms, bridal party and close family are invited. If people don't like it, don't come.

If she asks, just say you are inviting kids who are related or belong to the bridal party.

You are NOT being nasty! She may well be fine and look forward to having a night off though, try not to overthink it. It's not a bad idea to give a heads up before the invites go out too - if she asks how planning is going, say something like it's going well, but just an FYI, we're not inviting kids due to venue size/cost.

Good luck! X

We originally discussed only having related children and those from the wedding party as there was originally I think 33 children on the guest list. However in the end we didn’t do this. We put on the invitation that children were welcome to join the day but if the adults wanted some grown up time then that would be great too. In the end we had 21 children there aged between 8 weeks and 15 and I wouldn’t have changed it. They all behaved beautifully and because there were so many other children at the venue our own children mixed in and as a result we were super relaxed because we knew they were enjoying themselves.

totally your decision but if you are going to do the whole no kids thing I would give as much notice as possible

We recently went to a christening in the church where my daughter is to be married - all the children who were there were SO badly behaved it made my daughter consider having a ‘no children’ wedding. However, all of her friends have small children and her university friends have to travel so far that the wedding for them will be at least a weekend away, making babysitting more difficult. So we took the decision to build a nanny into the budget. It’s not that expensive in the great scheme of things (although we’ve foregone the video to balance it out). We’ve agreed that she’ll entertain them in the church hall during the service and we’ve hired an extra room at the venue for the crèche. There is also a per head cost for the meal. But her friends have been so relieved I think it will prove to be worth it. It means a lot to her having her friends there.

We recently went to a christening in the church where my daughter is to be married - all the children who were there were SO badly behaved it made my daughter consider having a ‘no children’ wedding. However, all of her friends have small children and her university friends have to travel so far that the wedding for them will be at least a weekend away, making babysitting more difficult. So we took the decision to build a nanny into the budget. It’s not that expensive in the great scheme of things (although we’ve foregone the video to balance it out). We’ve agreed that she’ll entertain them in the church hall during the service and we’ve hired an extra room at the venue for the crèche. There is also a per head cost for the meal. But her friends have been so relieved I think it will prove to be worth it. It means a lot to her having her friends there.