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Beginner March 2018

My whole family not coming

RomanticOrangeBridesmaid26483, 16 of July of 2018 at 07:34 Posted on Planning 0 2

In devestated I only have a relatively small family my mum two brothers and 2 sisters that I will be inviting to the wedding. I have had a huge fall out as my estranged father passed away he left a will and left my sister out. I assumed we would all split it equally and my family have kept this from my sister and somehow I’m in the wrong for saying share it. Well the outcome of that is they have refused to come to the wedding I am really upset by what I think is doing the right thing. It has shown me just how greedy they are and that family has a price (and we’re not talking thousands of pounds here)

my mum all along said she is not getting involved well she has and just thinks I’m jealous of my sister not the fact it’s wrong !

Turns out brother going to the stag do but not the wedding. No one else coming I have not spoken to them for a few months I made the first move and tried to talk to them and they were really rude to me.

now I’m walking down the aisle on my own ( I don’t have anyone else to do it) And it doesn’t even feel like my wedding. My fiancé has a big family and I will have no one there a handful of friends I feel so upset. At a time which should be so special really isn’t now.

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Latest activity by OmRum, 17 of August of 2018 at 16:14
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    Beginner October 2018
    InformalBride ·
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    I'm sorry this has happened to you before you wedding, families really are the worst. And marriages and deaths always bring out the absolute worst in them.

    If it makes you feel any better, my family aren't coming to my wedding either. I got on okay with them but my mum said it was too much hassle to attend her daughter's wedding. So I'm on my own too, against my OH's huge loving family. You're not alone!

    If you're worried about walking down the aisle on your own, how about having your best friend do it? There's no rule that says it has to be family, just pick someone you really trust. Or, strut down on your own! My friend did that and she had no problem with it. Whatever makes you feel comfortable.

    Try not to worry about it too much, it may be the most important day of your life but it is only one day. Don't let your family ruin it for you, they don't deserve it. ❤️

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    Try not to think about it as being on your own against your fiance's big family, but rather you entering a new family who will embrace you.

    Your family may well come round before the big day, but don't let their behaviour detract from the fact that you are marrying the person you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with.

    As the saying goes, friends (and spouses!) are the family that we choose for ourselves.

    If you don't want to walk down the aisle, why not ask one of your bridesmaids to escort you? Or maybe there is a member of your fiance's family that you feel comfortable with?

    But if you decide to go it alone - work it girl!

    My dad passed away a few years ago, so I am walking myself down, and will be giving a speech in place of the Father of the Bride speech. I have a brother who I love dearly, but no one can replace my dad, so I'm not going to try. One thing that is helping me, and may with you too, is to carry something of your dad with you.

    I will be wearing a necklace containing some of his ashes, and carrying a charm with dad's picture tied to my bouquet (you can get them on Etsy!). I'm still deciding, but I may also walk down the aisle to a song that reminds me of my dad. With all of these, I hope to feel like actually he'll be there in spirit, if not in body.

    I hope this helps! X

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    I'm so sorry your wedding day doesn't feel like your own. I hope your friends know how you feel about this and are rallying round you in support. It IS your special day, and you are creating a new family with the love of your life.

    Could you ask your FH's dad (if he's there) to walk you down the aisle? My friend's dad didn't show up to her wedding because he "couldn't be bothered to get up", so her Father-in-law offered to step in at the last minute and she accepted, saying that he was just as much a dad to her.

    I honestly don't understand families sometimes!

    Wishing you all the best x

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