Moving on...

I think there's certain people we'd notice if they left.

I don't think I'm one of them though ?

I'm not as prolific as I used to be, but then, I don't think anyone is. There seems to be a lot less topics that I'm interested in now, and I can't think of anything to post that would interest other people.

It's just natural I suppose, especially with the FB groups.

I think people gradually just drift away. There are a number of posters who I've seen slowly disappear in my time. It just happens on forums I think.

If no one noticed if i left id have a few words to say!!!

I think people just drift. Life can take over, or they find another place that is more relevant to them.

I left Hitched for a bit, but was back after 4 or 5 months as I needed BT.

I am mainly a lurker here now, but I have been here too long to abandon it all together.

I'm not sure....I don't have anyone on here on Facebook either so if anyone went that would be it forever which sounds kinda sad!

I think it is a gradual change. Keeping in touch off forum is often a reason, as is changing circumstances and not being able to post so much, then realising when you return that the group of members has new people you don't recognise, so you're less likely to post in response to their threads. Then realise you haven't posted in an age. Then just don't make the effort so much because work/life get in the way.

Of course they can all be overcome, but I think people have less drive to keep in tough on the forums when you keep in touch by other means too. Like email, which is work friendly!

I don't think that there will be a defining moment for me but just a dwindling interest. I would probably still lurk though and post less!

I doubt anyone would notice me posting less but I have noticed both you AC and Flow posting less recently, along with other Otters. I do feel sad about that but people's circumstances change so it is understandable.

I hope that this post is not your swan song AC!

I agree with everyone, and feel the same way. With regards to Wedding Planning, I feel like I try but I'm talking to myself most days! As well as competition from other places, the forum isn't as engaging as it used to be, I try hard but there are so few regular posters the feeling of community is lost, which doesn't encourage me to post.

Like others said, I think it's a dwindling thing. I find myself coming on less and less, and have zero interest in the WP side of things, I just stay to keep in touch with those I've got to know, but with other means of communication that are frankly more private I go there before I go here now...

I try to keep my hand in here and on WP, I have (believe it or not!) been on less due to work, I have been on just over 2 years and have noticed a bit of a cycle reoccurring with topics but new posters mean new perspectives which is good.

What do you mean 'locked' Jo?

I'm sad that my WPing time has come and I feel like I'm out on my own!..

ATB of course we are very interested in your WP. We'll just have to fluffy up a bit!

I'm not sure when / if i'll leave hitched. I'd probably go if most of the regulars left tbh, it's the otters that make it for me here.
I didn't have intentions of staying long but enjoyed it on here, don't know if that'll eventually fade but I'd hope to always be in touch with all the otters. Would anyone notice probably not i'm thinking but maybe.

ATB - I'm a WP and always looking to nip peoples heads about plans so please bring me any wp chat you have haha!

Perhaps you could nip MY head re: invitations.... ?

At least you didn't say "invites"

You know me better than that....

Yep. Praise the Lord (snigger!)

I don't come on as much anymore to post as I'm on my phone but I do lurk to see what people are up to. I don't think I'd give up unless my friends did

ATB - you're definitely not on your own - I'm also always happy to hear wp chat! I know what you mean about feeling like you're talking to yourself sometime though.

I think is be the same as others and just gradually start posting less. I doubt anyone would notice but I reckon I would notice quite a few if they disappeared. There's a few that I notice even if they're away for a couple of weeks.

Invites/invitations - I dont know what's got in to me but I keep finding myself saying invites recently and often have to edit afterwards but sometimes forget, it drives me mad and I don't know where it's come from!

Ive been a bit MIA and haven't had time to lurk, let alone post. I have never properly left a forum, just slowly faded away. Not sure anyone had noticed? I think the 'feel' of forums change as people come and go so sometimes a few slip away when there is a lull or lots of newbies?

Any i've posted on then stopped I've just gradually stopped going. I have never hung around as long anywhere as I have here though.

I agree that the lack of privacy does hold it back a bit when some of us do have private groups etc we can discuss these things.

Just noticed this reading through here haha! I sent you an email a couple of weeks ago asking if you could still do them for me & hadn't heard back and I was last to reply to the original email so didn't want to send another & seem like a plague, did you receive it ok? Hoping i haven't sent it to someone else!
I found some ones on etsy I ordered a few days ago so hoping they're ok but nowhere near as nice as yours!

ETA : Just checked & sent this on 30th January:
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"Hi Emma,

How are you? Just sending a wee email to see if you'd still be able to do the invitations we discussed, it's no bother if you're too busy honestly but didn't want to not ask incase you thought I wasn't interested or got someone else to do them etc Can easily get other ones made from ebay or something if you can't so no worries if you can't!

Also could you tell me the name of the rings again that are cheaper? I can't remember the name of them think it started with a P but that's it haha. Hope you're well!

Thanks,

Amanda."

I think I have moved on a bit, but purely because at the moment, I don't have time to get on forums at work.

I always feel a bit bad posting on Hitched related Facebook groups but it's just so much easier to get on there, as I can post from my phone without a faff!