09 Nov 2017
Frugal Bride Asks Guests for Cash Towards the Wedding as Engagement Gift
We’ve all heard of cash gift lists - a recent trend
that's becoming more and more common amongst engaged couples.
But one bride has taken the idea of a cash gift list even
further, resulting in some outraged Mumsnet users!
A wedding guest of the bride in question took to the popular forum to complain
about a ‘cheeky’ request the bride had made ahead of her engagement party.
“I’m not offended. I’m seriously tickled though at the sheer
brass balls of the request. It’s not even a wedding, it’s actually just the
engagement party but the bride to be has posted ‘For all those who are coming
tomorrow and don’t know what to get us, we don’t want presents, we want money
towards the wedding’.”
The user continued to express her fears at what the
other engagement party guests may think of the bride’s frugal request.
“I think I shall most likely be giving money seeing as that’s
what she’s asked for but she’s brave asking as I assume other people might get
uptight about these sorts of things.”
Other Mumsnet users were quick to share their opinions on
One wrote: “So the engagement party is a fishing trip to pay
for the wedding? You’ve got to admire them. I wonder if the wedding depends on
the cash gifts. Like if you put in £50 you’re a day and evening guest and if
you put in a tenner you’re evening only…”
Another added: “If they’re struggling to pay for their own
wedding, maybe they should just go to a flipping registry office.
“I actually really hate it when people post things like
that. You want to get married, pay for it yourself. I’d just give them a card
The original poster added a twist to the thread when she
admitted that this wasn’t actually the bride's first engagement...
They wrote: “The thing is though, this is her second or third
engagement but will be her first wedding. If it doesn’t proceed, can I ask for
my money back or is that bad form?”
What do you think – is asking for money towards the wedding at the engagement party distasteful, or would you be happy to contribute?
Let us know in the comments below!