The Chief Bridesmaid

The chief bridesmaid is usually a sister or close friend of the bride. However, if she is already married herself or if the bride is a widow and is re-marrying, her title becomes Matron of Honour. She will liaise closely with the bride during all the wedding preparations and help look after the other bridesmaids, flower girl and page boys.

9 months

Help the bride to choose her dress and the bridesmaids dresses.

6 months

Discuss the plans with the bride, groom and best man.
Discuss the dress or outfit with the bride, especially if being made. Ascertain who will pay for the outfit.

1 week before

Confirm final travel arrangements with the best man and any other ushers, including the time of arrival at the church or registry office.
Obtain for the best man a list of family and guests who should be personally escorted to their seats.
Attend the wedding rehearsal if required.
Have your hair cut.
Obtain large umbrellas.

The day before

Collect any hired clothing and accessories.

On the day

Ensure bouquets are ready for the bride, bridesmaids and flower girl.
Help the bride with her hair, make-up and dress.
Help the other bridesmaids, flower girls and page boys to get dressed and give them any final instructions on their duties.
Leave for the ceremony 10 minutes before the bride.

At the church

Arrange the bride's dress and veil.
Follow behind the bride and her father up the aisle.
Hold the bride's bouquet during the ceremony.
Witness the signing of the register if required.
Leave the church accompanied by the best man after the bride and groom.
Depart for the reception with any other bridesmaids and best man after the bride and groom.

At the reception

Stand in the receiving line and greet the guests.
Help to display and record gifts received.
Distribute slices of the wedding cake to the guests.
Have the first dance with the best man.
Help the bride change into her going away outfit.
Take care of her dress and accessories if required.

After the wedding

Return any hired clothing and accessories.