Probably the most worrying part of the day for the best man is the
speeches and its understandable. Here you are at your best friends/brothers
wedding day in front of a big crowd of people (most of whom you'll probably know),
most likely with a video camera pointing at you and you want to impress them, as
it is their big day. Phew, nervous yet? Well don't be because the good thing about
it all is that the audience will be rooting for you, they really want to laugh,
and even if you don't think your material is that funny you can be assured that
they will still laugh at the weakest of jokes.
Discuss the wedding plans with the bride, groom and chief bridesmaid.
Help to choose the ushers and explain their duties to them.
Organise the stag party.
Prepare your speech for the reception.
Compile a list of close family members who should have special seating arrangements
at the ceremony and share the infomation with the ushers.
Visit the ceremony and the reception venues with the bride and groom to check on
timings, parking arrangements etc.
1 week before
Check the groom has all the necessary documents for the ceremony and the honeymoon.
Double check their passports and visas.
Attend the wedding rehearsal.
Liaise with the ushers on the final arrangements.
Check for roadworks, diversions, carnivals etc taking place on the wedding day that
may effect timings or the route.
Arrange transport for the groom and self to ceremony.
Arrange transport to and from the reception.
Arrange going away car for the bride and groom from the reception if required.
Make a note of details and availability of emergency taxi companies.
Have your hair cut.
The day before
Collect any hired clothing and accessories.
Wash car if driving to the ceremony.
Organise decorations for the going away car.
On the day
Check final arrangements for the ushers, buttonholes, order of service sheets and
Collect telemessages, cards and emails to be read at the reception.
Keep the rings safe until the required time in the service.
Help the groom get ready (so be ready before him).
Ensure the groom gets to the church on time, which we advise is at least 20 minutes
before the ceremony is due to start.
At the church
Check on the ushers.
Sit on the right hand front pew with the groom.
Witness the signing of the register, if required.
Ensure all fees are paid to the church or registrar.
Escort the chief bridesmaid out of the church.
Assist the photographer in organising the guests for the photographs.
Ensure everyone has transportation to the reception venue.
At the reception
Stand in the receiving line and greet the guests.
Announce the speeches and cake cutting, if there is no Master of Ceremonies or Toastmaster.
Read any cards, emails and telemessages.
Give the third and final speech and reply on behalf of the bridesmaids.
Dance with the chief bridesmaid once the bride and groom have completed their first
Decorate the going away car.
Put any luggage required in the going away car.
Make sure the bride and groom go and change on time and announce to the guests that
they are about to depart.
Take charge of the groom's wedding clothes, if required.
After the wedding
Ensure the wedding presents are safely stored.
Return any hired clothing and accessories.