Take some deep breaths. You will be just fine.
I always advise the brides I speak to set a budget. No matter how small. Anything is possible, you just need to know where to look. In fact the greatest expence is normally the venue, food etc. Other things can be easily sourced cheaply. Lots of great advice on here about ebay and sales etc.
The best part of my job is finding the great deals for my brides but still creating a stunning wedding. Try and find an expert to talk through your concerns with. This should cost very little if anything!
It sounds like you would prefer not to have a plain dress, quick registry office and no bridesmaids wedding, so spend some time shopping around.
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