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• 07-Feb-2012 16:51

  Do you do everything together?

  flowmojo Joined on 20-Sep-2010 Ipswich Posts 8,860

  Contact Sparked by a discussion in my office, me and one of the women were just chatting about things we have planned in the next few months...and , wedding aside, i have a fair few bits and piees without Mr F (as well as many with!!)  For instance, next weekend hes away and im having friends come visit..one fo the older married men instantly chipped in saying that weekends away or going to events without each other is a bad sign in a relationship!  I said, it works for us as we then get chance to miss each other more and appreciate the time we DO spend together.  What camp are you in?  Do you and your OH do EVERYTHING together or like me, do you do stuff seperatly with friends etc and think nothing of it?     Denial has turned to ignorance and sheer panic..... HITCHED AWARDS 2011 - WINNER! Most Pleasant Hitcher * WINNER! Most guilty of overusing the word 'hun' * 2nd Place! Funniest Hitcher * 2nd Place! Most Unorganised * 2nd Place! Best Avatar

• 07-Feb-2012 16:54

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  sange Joined on 27-Oct-2009 Costa del Winchester Posts 3,043	Contact Were always doing separate stuff. Itd be boring otherwise, no ? Life is not a popularity contest. Fact. OM since 26th Aug 2010 and lovin' it   12 weeks, Aug 2011 9 weeks, Feb 2012

• 07-Feb-2012 16:55

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  Vikster79 Joined on 28-Jun-2010 Birmingham Posts 3,358

  Contact haa haa funny that, i got told by my mom (because i stopped at my best mates on Friday night - not planned i might add) that i was out of order and I shouldnt do that when im married!!.  P.s the wife couldnt care less to be honest  Im still my own person and am certainly not joined at the hip.  We like doing things separately as we both have different likes and dislikes and then its nice to come together when there is something mutual to do.  It would drive me insance doing absolutely everything together.

• 07-Feb-2012 16:55

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  Panjita Joined on 21-Jan-2011 Posts 5,538	Contact We do most things together but H has his football and I go out with my mates occasionally. Mostly we are together though. With my ex we did more or less nothing together and it was really lonely at times so it means a lot to me for us to do most things together.  "Panj is an absolute diamond and totally not how I imagined, she's very sweet and quiet and generally lovely"

• 07-Feb-2012 16:56

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  Mrs C Joined on 18-Sep-2009 Posts 8,625

  Contact If we did everything together it would mean less to talk about! To be fair its normally him out and me home but this year I have been out with the girls nearly every weekend, and more weekends to come!!! But we do try and plan in "date night" when we can... As long as we keep talking and don't take the p!ss we are fine with it... getting it all out of my system before babies! Married since 19.O3.2O11 Dress for Sale: http://www.preloved.co.uk/adverts/show/104086706/jonathan-james-couture-wedding-dress-1012.html

• 07-Feb-2012 16:56

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  AmnesiaCustard Joined on 23-Nov-2010 Posts 2,682	Contact Good grief no. I would be bored out of my skull if I had to visit his mother as often as he does! Married on June 4th 2011

• 07-Feb-2012 16:57

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  Knees Joined on 25-Jun-2010 Posts 2,622

  Contact We do more things apart than we do together! An old colleague of mine told me once that her and her husband don't even go to the corner shop without each other - I thought that was far more weird than my situation. This week: Monday - me to gym class, him to football training Tuesday - me to Zumba then a drink with friends (our mutual friends but he can't go), him to football committee meeting then pool Wednesday - meal out together with friends Thursday - me to singing practice then drink with friends (my girl friends), him to football training Friday - me to Zumba, him to some work lecture, then probably night in together Saturday - him to football, me to hairdressers in day. He'll probably be out with the boys Sat night. I'll probably have a night in Sunday - him to rugby in Cardiff. Me to my sister's for the day. Following weekend, him to football, me to BM dress fitting. Weekend after that we'll have a weekend away together. Definitely spend more time apart than together, although we do work together, but that's not quite the same. I think it's healthy to have separate interests and separate friends.

• 07-Feb-2012 16:57

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  Rod Joined on 18-Sep-2010 Posts 2,295

  Contact We do a lot together but not everything. I still have girly nights out and am planning a weekend away with my bestie in the summer...he goes on boys nights and is going to Vegas with his mates for a staggy in June. I think you need balance. The thing that is a bad sign is if you start doing things separately after 10 years of doing EVERYHTING together...thats when i would worry!   Created by MyFitnessPal.com - Free Calorie Counter Mrs T since 1st October 2011 - Rod since 4th May 2012 - Thanks Trickers!

• 07-Feb-2012 16:59

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  Kochanski Joined on 19-Jun-2011 Posts 1,185	Contact We do most stuff together but only because we're forced to due to the kids. We do have nights out with mates but if we get some much needed time off we like to go out as a couple. We don't seem to tire of each other's company. Even if I try sneak off for a bath he ends up coming to talk to me cos he's bored without me! Mrs K. Married 3rd March 2012. Milennium hand and shrimp. Bugrit!

• 07-Feb-2012 17:03

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  claire198421 Joined on 11-Jun-2009 Posts 4,894

  Contact We have a mix of both. I go and see my parents (they live 2 mins away) usually 2 - 3 times, sometimes more, each week. he will usually only come with me once as I tend to just gossip with Mum. He goes out on nights out more than me but I pop to see friends at their houses a lot more than he does as a few of my friends have babies so not so easy to go out. I miss him when we have been through a spell of doing lots seperatly but I think that is a good sign and we then put a night aside to have a night just the 2 of us, cook something nice and have no laptops or TV Became a Mrs on 28.08.11

• 07-Feb-2012 17:03

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  jen_84 Joined on 17-May-2011 Posts 1,652

  Contact We do a lot together, far more than we do apart, but we're not afraid to do things on our own either. He used to be part of a photography group which he would go along to on his own as it doesn't interest me, the same with a star gazing thing he sometimes goes to. He is going to see one of his old friends in a few weeks and will be away for the weekend, but I'll either just have some me time or organise to see some girl friends. I go away with school for three days every year and for the past couple of years he has taken these as holiday from work so he can have some time on his own and can play on the computer all day/watch boy programmes on TV without feeling guilty about not spending part of his day with me. I have no issue with him taking this as holiday and me not being there  - I have set holidays being a teacher so get time to myself during the year, so why shouldn't he? Doesn't mean that we have a bad relationship, just that we know the value of 'me' time and being able to be a bit independent from each other as well.

• 07-Feb-2012 17:03

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  CanaryBride Joined on 28-Dec-2011 Essex Posts 983

  Contact A bit of both for us. We used to spend a alot of time apart and then made the most of the time we did have together. It's balanced out a bit now and we're spending considerable more time together but can't see it staying that way for long.  I know a few couples that live in each others pockets. One have been together for nearly three years and have spent maybe 4 nights apart. She cries every time and makes out it is the worse thing ever.  The other couple live together, commute together, work in the same office, commute home together, go to their hobby together and never go out separately. I honestly don't think I could do that...even when we go on holiday together, I like that he can go off to the gym and I get a bit of time to myself.  Mutual Wierdness

• 07-Feb-2012 17:21

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  Mellow_Yellow Joined on 11-Dec-2010 Glasgow Posts 3,652	Contact We do spend a lot if time together, but I went to London without H2B twice last year, he's away for a ski trip and octoberfest this year. We have our respective hen/stag weekends, and he has another stag weekend later in the year...I like to think we have a good balance.

• 07-Feb-2012 17:36

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  RKB Joined on 25-Nov-2009 Posts 2,023

  Contact H and I spend a lot of time together, but we do things without each other too.  I was out at the weekend with my girls and H was at home tying flies for fishing. I'm also going away for a couple of days with my girls in the summer without H, and i'm trying to encourage him to go to Manchester to see a band he likes with a couple of mates.   Happily Married Since 15th December 2011! I am my Grandmothers Granddaughter, Spitting Image of my Reflection!  A Country Bumpkin of the Highest Degree.  And if Anyone thought they had moves like Jagger?  No, Jagger wishes he had moves like me! :)

• 07-Feb-2012 18:19

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  BigRedCandle Joined on 17-Jul-2011 Posts 260

  Contact I think I would go mental if I didn't have time apart from him! On nights out we will usually go out together, as our friends tend to overlap, but obviously I wouldn't go to boys nights and he wouldn't come to girls nights. He has a second job in a pub Friday and Saturday nights, and its quite nice to get a night to myself every week, but when he's been working both nights for several weekends I do get a bit sad.  He has this annoying habit of asking me if he can go out!! For example, instead of saying "i'm going out with X on Friday night" he's say "oh, X has invited me out... shame I cant go" as if he's waiting for me to give him permission. ARGH! And whats worse is that I picked up the habit, and for a while, I started "asking" if I could go out! Silly man.  Was RondaRollo