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  • Bridesmaids and money worries

    I just need to get this off my chest.  I don't think there's any more I can do but I'll tell the story anyway.

     My BMs have been great - they've ordered their dresses and they arrived last week.  This morning I had received 2 e-mails.  One from bm1 saying that they loved the dresses but now she wanted to talk about money.  I owed bm1 this amount of money and bm2 this amount and here were their bank details.  Then the second e-mail was from bm2 saying how mortified she was that an e-mail had been sent about money and she never wanted that to happen as she knew I'd pay them when I was back in the UK.

    I feel it was perfectly fine to be contacted about the money and am embarrassed that bm1 had to e-mail me that, as I should have been discussing the money not leaving it to them, but it had honestly slipped my mind as I am so used to paying deposits and nothing else is outstanding until July. 

    Anyway my worry is that I'm having a problem paying the money.  I tried to transfer it online this morning but Nationwide have set up card readers for transactions like that and my card reader is in the UK.  So I've e-mailed my Dad and asked if he'll do the transfer for me, so I'll owe him the money not the BMs.  My other alternative is doing an International transfer from Bangkok, but this might cause them charges with their banks and it will be difficult to know exactly how many Baht to transfer due to the ever changing exchange rate.  I've e-mailed this to my BMs and sent them a text letting them know.  BM2 has been straight back to me saying no worries she'll read it later and not to worry I wasn't causing them problems.  But BM1 hasn't replied to my text yet which is unlike her and now I'm worrying that she's annoyed with me, but I'm not sure what else I can do. 

    I'm sure it'll all be fine, but I hate it when issues like money crop up in friendships.

    Thanks for reading!

  • Re: Bridesmaids and money worries

    Don't really know what to suggest but could you not just speak to the BM causing the issue and say you can do it as an international transfer thingy, but she'll be charged?

    sorry not much help [Laugh]

  • Re: Bridesmaids and money worries

    I'm sure you've already though of this but is the money coming from a UK bank account? Do you have a cheque book for it?

    Sarah May, 26th October 2009

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  • Re: Bridesmaids and money worries

    Yep I've got the wedding fund in my UK bank account but if I wrote a cheque it could take a week to get back to the UK and I'm under the impression she needs the money sooner rather than later (she's got mortgage issues).  I can transfer the money from my Thai bank account but I don't think she'll be happy paying the charges as it will be another thing for me to have to try and pay back iyswim!

  • Re: Bridesmaids and money worries

     how about doing the international transfer - and pay her an extra amount to cover the charges?

    Could bridesmaid 2 cover the cost to bridesmaid 1 and then you pay both the amounts back to bridesmaid 2 when you have access to do the funds transfer from your UK account? 

  • Re: Bridesmaids and money worries

    Generally if you do an International Money Transfer (I've done them from a few different countries) you'll have the option to either send in local or destination currency and also pay all charges at your end.

    Don't know if it's different in Thailand.

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