I'm so angry (but I've made my decision)

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• 18-Mar-2010 11:52

  I'm so angry (but I've made my decision)

  Gillsy Joined on 20-Jan-2009 Ayrshire Posts 3,657

  Contact You may have read my post earlier in the week about issues with my BM.  Well this BM has sent me an e-mail today to tell me that I owe her £25 for the hen night invitations including a £5 deposit for the meal.  She said it will help to go towards her hair, nails and makeup.  Now, it was agree at the beginning that the BMs would pay for their shoes and hair accessories only.  Everything else is being paid by me and OH - hair, makeup, dresses, flowers, alterations, room in the hotel on the wedding night etc etc. I e-mailed her back (nicely) to remind her that we only asked them to pay for shoes and hair accessories (which incidentally my mum has actually paid for so it hasn't cost her anything) and that we are paying for her hair and makeup.  Shes replied with thank you very much. So do I still owe her the £25?????  I can't believe the cheek!!! Also, I wasn't impressed with the invitations that were sent and if I knew I was going to get a bill for it I would have done them myself and probably sent everybody an e-mail.

• 18-Mar-2010 11:54

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  Mrs Tonner 2010 Joined on 19-Jan-2010 Posts 484	Contact :o that's shocking! Just be careful what else she decides to add on to the hen do and charge you for!!

• 18-Mar-2010 11:58

  Re: I'm so angry

  emmamc01 Joined on 03-Jul-2006 United Kingdom Posts 613

  Contact Im not sure i can help.  Was anything discussed about money when she arranged to sort out the invites?  Or the deposit for meal?  It sounds like she added the comment about going towards hair, make up etc as an excuse and had forgotten you were paying for them.  Maybe she felt guilty asking for it and needed to add an extra comment. Sorry im no help - but wanted to share your burden xx I get married on 27th August xx

• 18-Mar-2010 12:04

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  naomiowen Joined on 15-Nov-2009 Posts 514	Contact omg! how rude! doesnt she think YOU might need the money?! some people are crazy! i would tell her youll give the 25 back when shes paid for dress, shoes, hair, makeup etc even if i had made an agreement with a bride about this sort of thing i would shut my mouth and be gratefull for what she(you) has already paid for! what a cheek! Created by MyFitnessPal.com - Free Calorie Counter

• 18-Mar-2010 12:15

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  inalein Joined on 03-Apr-2009 West Lothian Posts 364	Contact I'm lost for words! That's just unbelievable. I wouldn't pay her. Here have a Weight lost so far: 5st 2.5lb      -     Weight lost last week: 1.5lb     -     Weightloss to go: 2st 11.5lb

• 18-Mar-2010 12:21

  Re: I'm so angry

  Gillsy Joined on 20-Jan-2009 Ayrshire Posts 3,657	Contact thanks for your support girls and the hug inalein!!!! Going to speak to my OH and sister later and hopefully they can calm me down a bit.  I'll give her the £25 if thats going to make her happy.

• 18-Mar-2010 12:31

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  Josiep00 Joined on 19-Aug-2009 Posts 1,232	Contact I am not surprised. I think sometimes friends easily forget how much you have going on with a wedding and that it would be a nice time to support you. Being a BM is meant to be an honour - I'd love to help my bridal friends out as much as possible!

• 18-Mar-2010 12:32

  Re: I'm so angry

  Josiep00 Joined on 19-Aug-2009 Posts 1,232	Contact lol.. sorry. Not surprised that you are angry... not at your friend's comments

• 18-Mar-2010 12:32

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  cola Joined on 16-Mar-2008 Ipswich Posts 1,379

  Contact oh dear! it seems a bit odd that she wants her money back now, when i've arranged suprised dos for friends in the past, i've paid for meals, deposits, decorations and invites and wouldn't dream of asking for any money back because its been my treat to them!  i understand why you'd be annoyed at her wanting you to pay for it after the event!!! i wonder if maybe she'd forgot about you paying for the hair etc and was thinking she was folking out in all different directions for being your bridesmaid, sometimes people get the wrong end the stick and rather than say something to you direct she's done it in this round about way???

• 18-Mar-2010 12:44

  Re: I'm so angry

  missdeedee Joined on 16-Jul-2008 Posts 1,489

  Contact Oh G! That is so so rude! How on earth can she ask you for that money if you didn't agree to pay for them to begin with? I swear, I think some people that you must have an endless supply of money if you are getting married! They maybe think you get a grant or something! lol! You should have just given her the money and then let her pay for her own hair and makeup, I know who would be worse off!!!! I really hope she's not expecting you to pay that, but I hate to say she maybe still is xxx

• 18-Mar-2010 13:15

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  emsa1 Joined on 26-Jan-2010 Gloucester Posts 435

  Contact OMG i cannot beleive the cheek of some people. i wouldn't do this but i would probably feel like turning around and saying something along the lines of: ok, i'll give you the £25 for making the invites to MY hen party, oh and just to let you know you owe me: £XXXXX for your bridesmaid dress £XXXXX for your meal on my wedding day £XXXXX for transport costs to my wedding venue £XXXXX for your drinks on my wedding day all of which I have paid for! sorry just makes me so angry when people are like this!!!!!!

• 18-Mar-2010 13:15

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  Millymolly83 Joined on 20-Aug-2007 United Kingdom Posts 1,728	Contact Oh that is rude!! I personally think that is very cheeky asking you to pay!! A Smugged Married Since August 2010 C born Jan 2012 - 5 Weeks early.

• 18-Mar-2010 13:22

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  Mrs Spink Joined on 14-Oct-2008 Sunny England! Posts 3,105	Contact If you don't pay what is she going to do? Not invite you! OM since 8-9-10

• 18-Mar-2010 13:28

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  pawzandribbons Joined on 25-Apr-2008 United Kingdom Posts 41	Contact Crikey, that doesn't seem right!  I think unless i'd have agreed to it in the first place i'd tell her to take a hike.   Carolx     Carol x

• 18-Mar-2010 13:34

  Re: I'm so angry

  Steelgoddess Joined on 05-Aug-2007 United Kingdom Posts 1,266	Contact Shes having a bubble isn;t she??? You need to sit her down mate!!   x