Sorry to post this here...but i'm just so annoyed at the moment.
My Grandmother was diagnosed with cancer in november, she passed away just before my birthday in february and her funeral was on Thursday just gone.
She had one wish before she died that she would mange to hang on for the wedding which is in 31 days time. She obviously didnt make it, her other wish was that my Aunties (my dad sister) children would be involved. Their daughter would be my flowergirl and their sons would be involved with other duties and that they would wear kilts to represent the scottish side of my family.
My Gran really wanted their daughter to be my flowergirl, so we spoke to my Aunt and she was thrilled with the idea. We asked their daughter who said that all she has ever wanted to do was be a bridesmaid. My Gran paid for her dress, tiara, shoes etc and because she was getting so ill, we took the daughter round and she was dressed up and my Gran thought she looked beautiful, this was about a week or so before she went into hospital never to come out. My boy cousins really wanted the opportunity to wear their kilts and we sat for hours with my gran talking about wedding, this was the last time i saw my gran alive.
My family consists of my parents, my maternal Gran and Uncle and my paternal family which includes this aunt and her husband and her 4 children and another aunt and her husband, and my Gran's sister and her daughter.
Tonight my Dad gets a phonecall, bearing in mind they dont have the decency to call me themselves.
They have decided to go on holiday the weekend of the wedding so none of them are coming, my other aunt is also not coming - she is also my God Mother. It's not even the fact that they are not coming that upsets me. What upsets me is they didnt have the class to tell me direct and the fact that the one wish my Gran had (their mother) is being totally ignored and she hasnt even been buried a week yet.
So either they have just booked the holiday knowing full well that it was my wedding because they are all so involved, or its been booked a while and they ignored the dying wish of their mother. They didnt even call to say that they were thinking of going on holiday and would that be an issue?. We've also allocated their heads for the venue bearing in mind that this time next month we will be married, their allocation comes to nearly £500 alone!
My dad (their brother) is distraught, he is really upset and feels very let down, and has said now that he doesnt want them at the wedding even if they didnt go on holiday because of all the bad feeling on the day.
The only relatives that will be there on the day now that aren't in the wedding party will be my gran's sister and daughter (not likely they will come now either) and my other gran who has such bad dementia she wont even know what's going on and my maternal uncle who doesn't want to be there either. the only person who was really looking forward and wanted desperately to come to the wedding is the one person who cant. Its soul destroying to me that they can do this across her, and i feel quite a wicked thing also.
i know there is no answer, and i have rambled, but i needed somewhere to let it out...and facebook wouldn't be an appropriate place to do that.