Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

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• 25-Feb-2010 18:11

  Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  Madwife Nightingale Joined on 17-Nov-2003 United Kingdom Posts 18,906

  Contact I'd mentioned before I was struggling with the reducing of the dose and that I decided to just stop taking them. Well it appears to be an epic failure.So tomorrow I'll be attempting to make an appointment with my doctors before the urge to run completely overtakes me.   And the AIBU? A friend of the family is getting married later in the year. We recieved the invite last month with a menu to choose from. I haven't yet RSVP'd because quite frankly I've had a lot on my plate and we're so financially challenged right now, buying an RSVP is actually a luxury. So I made an RSVP from bits I had at home and was due to see her at a scarbooking thing at the weekend....she didn't turn up there so obviously I couldn't give her the RSVP. I've had a message from her, which was polite enough reminding me that I needed to reply as she needed to let the venue know and things. I explained I'd had it to give her on Saturday but I could easily email her the menu choices if she needed them quickly. I got a really stroppy message back explaining why she wasn't there on Saturday (not that I cared nor moaned about), and that emailing the menu options was not good enough as it stated quite clearly that the RSVP's needed to be back by the 28th and it was only mine and my sisters she was waiting for. Incidentally this was all on my FB wall and I notice she hasn't posted anything on my sisters wall. It has really upset me...I want to tell her to shove her fecking invite and I don't give a stuff about going to her wedding quite frankly. I won't do it as she is the daughter of my Godmother, and my mother's best friend. So I won't do it to my Mum. She knows we're in financial straits. I haven't once made an issue of it. I'm not even late with my reply. But honestly am I being unreasonable to be upset by her over this? I've known her all my life - she's never liked me. Twice she's been nice to me......both times after the girls were born and she wanted cuddles with them. When we were younger she stole my toys and bullied me or left me out. So you can see why I don't care about going to her wedding. It's all pretences for the sake of out mothers. But then again it is her big day and I remember how important it is     Mum to Amy 22/02/06 Phoebe 11/01/08 Want to follow my Midwifery journey? Read my blog http://fromstudenttomidwife.blogspot.com/

• 25-Feb-2010 18:16

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  ColetteG Joined on 15-Jul-2004 United Kingdom Posts 6,222	Contact No I dont think you are BU. If the deadline for RSVP is 28th whats her problem?

• 25-Feb-2010 18:19

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  Madonna Joined on 30-Sep-2003 United Kingdom Posts 23,862	Contact Firstly, please don't ever use the F word again, or I'll come round and sort you aaaaaaht x You tried, it didn't work like it might have, you're going to try again. And she's being a bridezilla...   Inspired by Sofie, Milo and all my angels, most recently Joe http://www.justgiving.com/JoeDonn/ Ideas and donations welcome x

• 25-Feb-2010 18:24

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  Madwife Nightingale Joined on 17-Nov-2003 United Kingdom Posts 18,906	Contact I'm not as bad as before but I just wanted so badly to not need them.   Can I address her RSVP to Miss Bridezilla Xxxx Mum to Amy 22/02/06 Phoebe 11/01/08 Want to follow my Midwifery journey? Read my blog http://fromstudenttomidwife.blogspot.com/

• 25-Feb-2010 18:24

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  RuthG Joined on 02-Aug-2003 Anywhere but here Posts 12,787	Contact Total Bridezilla!   As for the AD's it really takes a long time to come off them, I had to remove on tablet a fortnight to come off mine, and even then it was hard going. Look after yourself x Catch it, bin it, kill it.

• 25-Feb-2010 18:28

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  **Pip** Joined on 25-Feb-2006 United Kingdom Posts 17,696

  Contact Another one who doesnt get what her problem is as the RSVP isnt late anyway... and when it was me, I was happy to get it through as email or whatever. Like the others said, slight bridezilla moment!!! I dont have any advice re the ADs but lots of hugs for you Theo Michael 01.12.08 Eleni Sofia 23.03.10 Jonah Theo 11.04.11 http://www.justgiving.com/theowilson blog here: http://www.simplesite.com/TheosStar

• 25-Feb-2010 19:01

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  Sharrington Joined on 23-Jul-2005 Small sofa in the sitting room opposite the window Posts 12,263	Contact I've no experience of ADs, so can't help there... but goodness me she is rude! If it were me, I wouldn't be going... or if I was going I'd be buying a present not on her wedding list just to annoy her! Oh and I'd also be having some dietary issues which meant I'd have to have a special menu just for me... x Identical Twins David and Joseph 16/3/09 www.usborneonline.org/sharon

• 25-Feb-2010 19:05

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  Madwife Nightingale Joined on 17-Nov-2003 United Kingdom Posts 18,906

  Contact Sharrington: I've no experience of ADs, so can't help there... but goodness me she is rude! If it were me, I wouldn't be going... or if I was going I'd be buying a present not on her wedding list just to annoy her! Oh and I'd also be having some dietary issues which meant I'd have to have a special menu just for me... x She won't be getting a present from me! No way! But loving the idea of special dietary requirements....that  will only find out about a month before the wedding Mum to Amy 22/02/06 Phoebe 11/01/08 Want to follow my Midwifery journey? Read my blog http://fromstudenttomidwife.blogspot.com/

• 25-Feb-2010 19:13

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  Madonna Joined on 30-Sep-2003 United Kingdom Posts 23,862	Contact I only had one strop aout RSVPs - it was from my supposed good friend who saw fit to decline because she'd be going on someone else's hen night, and wrote her response to me in pencil... Inspired by Sofie, Milo and all my angels, most recently Joe http://www.justgiving.com/JoeDonn/ Ideas and donations welcome x

• 25-Feb-2010 19:16

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  Madwife Nightingale Joined on 17-Nov-2003 United Kingdom Posts 18,906

  Contact Madonna: I only had one strop aout RSVPs - it was from my supposed good friend who saw fit to decline because she'd be going on someone else's hen night, and wrote her response to me in pencil... Oh dear! I can remember being irritated when people were late or didn't reply but not to that extent! I remember the feeling that it was the most important thing in the world to me and I am trying to keep that in mind. I guess some women get all irrational about it. I choose to get irrational over other things.   Mum to Amy 22/02/06 Phoebe 11/01/08 Want to follow my Midwifery journey? Read my blog http://fromstudenttomidwife.blogspot.com/

• 25-Feb-2010 19:18

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  1stBaby Joined on 19-Dec-2005 Posts 11,097	Contact Have no experience about the ad's but thought you deserved a . Bridezilla, definately xxx Mummy to Evie & George

• 25-Feb-2010 19:18

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  Letty Joined on 25-Apr-2005 Near the Sea, Dorset Posts 6,658	Contact Not being unreasonable at all!  I had RSVPs through text, email, phone and letter, I really didn't care as long as I knew.  Email her anyway with the subject RSVP  And re the anti D's, please don't beat yourself up, it will happen one day it's just not the right time right now x

• 25-Feb-2010 19:21

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  Madwife Nightingale Joined on 17-Nov-2003 United Kingdom Posts 18,906

  Contact Thank you girls. I am getting H to hand deliver it to her parents tomorrow....along with posting the letter to my Aunt to say thank you for Amy's birthday money, but to let her know that Phoebe's didn't arrive.....again but I won't mention that part....I don't understand why anyone would send cash in the post Mum to Amy 22/02/06 Phoebe 11/01/08 Want to follow my Midwifery journey? Read my blog http://fromstudenttomidwife.blogspot.com/

• 25-Feb-2010 19:24

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  Maisy Mouse Joined on 28-Jul-2005 United Kingdom Posts 8,975

  Contact You absolutely are not a failure. It sounds like maybe it was just too much of a quick dose reduction, but I'm sure your GP will be able to help you. That would upset me about the RSVP too. I can understand her wanting to know numbers, but I don't see why emailing is a problem at all. IIRC, we gave everyone the option to reply to our wedding by email. And hold on - it's not even the 28th yet so why is she getting stroppy?? Have you spoken to your mum about it?

• 25-Feb-2010 19:27

  Re: Operation come off AD's = Failure and an AIBU?

  pinkluvlylady Joined on 11-Apr-2004 United Kingdom Posts 4,101	Contact never ever go cold turkey off anti depressants. It is dangerous. Talking from experience. you are obviously feeling upset full stop not on them, see your doc asap. oh and I must be a failure too then,because even though I reduced my dose from 20mg's to 10mg's and stagger the time I take them, i am still having to take them throughout my pregnancy (with the dr's approval)