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• 20-Jan-2010 15:18

  So I have some news about Theo (very sens and quite long)

  **Pip** Joined on 25-Feb-2006 United Kingdom Posts 17,696

  Contact I did come to write this earlier but I'm still in a very mixed up place and not even sure what to write. I dont want it to be that I just disappear for a bit though as I have relied heavily on the support here and I'm scared. I have spoken to my solicitor today as last week the hospital were due to respond to our letter of claim regarding my care, Theo's death and the inquest in general. As the date passed I expected a lot of dragging out again and have had quite a week of it if I'm honest. I havent wanted to get up, I've lost interest in everything and have been a crying wreck most days. I'm so happy that I'm pregnant and I truly feel blessed but it's been hard and I cant pretend that it isnt anymore. So... basically the solicitor called the NHSLA to find out why they hadnt responded and they have come back with a full admission of liability. It's pretty huge for us. I really didnt expect to get it and whilst they could have happily 'thrown some money at us' I really wanted them to admit it and take reponsibility. My solicitor is even a little surprised as we'd expected them to say that they partially admit liability - as in they admit to the deficits in care to me but that they wouldnt have taken legal responsibility for Theo's death. But they have. I'm not sure what I think or feel right now. This is what we were fighting for, although it was never going to be easy hearing that they were responsible. I feel a bit weird about all those times I thought I was mad and that was imagining all this and now it's in the open. The process isnt over and there are bits to be sorted out about what happens next and processing a claim. But this is the big hurdle iyswim. Thanks everyone for being there, all the times when I've felt like breaking and people have been there to help me pick up the pieces. I know I have to focus all my energy on looking after myself and Pipetta but in a way I feel like I have done what I can for Theo with the fight and in some way it helps. I love you my gorgeous boy, and I miss you every single day xxxxx Theo Michael 01.12.08 Eleni Sofia 23.03.10 Jonah Theo 11.04.11 http://www.justgiving.com/theowilson blog here: http://www.simplesite.com/TheosStar

• 20-Jan-2010 15:24

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  Goldfish Joined on 17-Jun-2007 United Kingdom Posts 8,083	Contact Pip, am glad they have admitted responsibility - it must be a huge thing to deal with though. you know we are always here when you need to off load. xxxx

• 20-Jan-2010 15:26

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  CharlieDaisy Joined on 25-Mar-2009 Posts 1,540	Contact PIp - I am so so pleased for you that they have admitted full liability.  Always remember we are here for you

• 20-Jan-2010 15:28

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  frankiefizz Joined on 12-Nov-2004 United Kingdom Posts 4,463	Contact Oh Pip, what an emotional day for you So pleased they have admitted liability.  I can;t imagine how you must be feeling, but at least you know you have done the very best in fighting the fight for Theo. Thinking of you Alexander Valentine born 25 October 2007 Dylan James born 21 February 2011

• 20-Jan-2010 15:31

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  smarties Joined on 01-Jul-2004 United Kingdom Posts 8,534

  Contact **Pip** I'm so glad that they have made a full admission of liability and that you finally have something tangible to show how hard you have fought in Theo's memory. I am in awe of you and how brave you are every day, and we're here for whatever you need, whenever you need it. I can totally understand how you must have such mixed feelings about the news, and having it out in the open in black and white that this could have been avoided (even though you knew that was the case) must be very difficult for you both. I wish you a very happy future with Pipetta xx

• 20-Jan-2010 15:31

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  Sshh Joined on 16-Nov-2009 Posts 1,838	Contact Oh Pip, it's been such a fight for you all. Now you don't have to fight any more. Theo would be so proud of his fantastic Mum. So will Pipetta.  A completely inadequate hug coming your way.  Follow me on Twitter

• 20-Jan-2010 15:33

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  Splosh Joined on 23-Apr-2003 United Kingdom Posts 9,656	Contact That is good that they have accepted full liability. And as FF said, at least you know you have done the very best you can for Theo now.   Always thinking of you   xx 1st December 2007 17th July 2010 (At home) #3 due August 2012     Created by MyFitnessPal.com - Free Weight Loss Tools

• 20-Jan-2010 15:39

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  Snowball Joined on 09-Apr-2004 United Kingdom Posts 5,810	Contact I've got to dash out now but just wanted to give you a virtual hug and send our love xx  Harvey born 7 October 2005 - 11 days late - 6lb 10oz Hugo born 25 April  2010 - 12 days late - 8lb 8oz Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. — Ferris Bueller

• 20-Jan-2010 15:40

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  jelly baby Joined on 22-Feb-2005 United Kingdom Posts 17,952	Contact I am so glad that they have accepted full responsibility, I'm so pleased for you that you don't have to fight for that.  It's not going to take away from what happened but you shouldn't need to fight. Apologies for lack of capital letters - Zoe has stolen my shift key

• 20-Jan-2010 15:43

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  Starstruck Joined on 10-Jun-2002 United Kingdom Posts 13,323

  Contact Pip i've been thinking about you this afternoon, you sounded so down on your post on the 3rd tri.  I am so glad that they have admitted full responsibility and not tried to fob you off at all.  Although I can barely begin to imagine how hard it must be for you and Mr P to hear that, no wonder you are feeling so emotionally drained at the mo (gsh its bad enough just dealing with pregnancy hormones without all this as well). I really hope that you are ok sweetie, and you know where we all are if you need us. Beautiful bridal tiaras and bridal jewellery Join us on Facebook

• 20-Jan-2010 15:47

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  wodger_woo Joined on 21-Oct-2003 United Kingdom Posts 3,931

  Contact Oh Pip  I can understand how this has made you feel but I'm so glad that they have admitted full responsibility. You and your husbands bravery throughout these difficult times really is a testament to your love for Theo and how wonderful you are.  As always I am always here for you. Despite what you were going through you have been an amazing friend and support to me and I thank you so very, very much  K xx  "The miracle isn't that I finished, the miracle is that I had the courage to start"

• 20-Jan-2010 15:49

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  **Pip** Joined on 25-Feb-2006 United Kingdom Posts 17,696

  Contact Thanks everyone, I'm finding it hard to have a proper cry at the moment, I think I cried enough for the week last night before I heard this but I feel like it's there choking me and probably the second H walks in the door I will let it out. I'm going to try to have a little sleep as I've felt shattered all day but cant settle. I've just received the list of things I need to go through but I'm not ready for it just yet. Theo Michael 01.12.08 Eleni Sofia 23.03.10 Jonah Theo 11.04.11 http://www.justgiving.com/theowilson blog here: http://www.simplesite.com/TheosStar

• 20-Jan-2010 15:54

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  HuskyGirl Joined on 01-Aug-2005 United Kingdom Posts 1,716	Contact I'm so glad they have admitted liability. You must be feeling all over the place though, such a mix of emotions. We're all here when you need us

• 20-Jan-2010 15:56

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  Mossy Joined on 27-Jun-2006 United Kingdom Posts 3,993	Contact I'm glad they have admitted liability but it must still be so hard for you A 3.10.2007 born at 31+1 due to severe PE C 2.9.2010 born at 38+2 (IUGR) O 16.2.2012 at 38+2 (Obstetric cholestasis )

• 20-Jan-2010 15:57

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  zoej1983 Joined on 22-May-2008 plymouth Posts 1,975

  Contact Pip, im so happy they have admitted liability and not tried to drag it out any longer. I cant imagine the emotional rollercoaster that you and Mr P have been on. It must be a shock that its all over with and you no longer have to fight (even though theres a few small things to deal with). Im sure Theo would be incredibly proud of his mummy and daddy. Anytime you want to unload you know where we all are. Bethany-Paige born 15th Oct 2003 weighing 9lb 2oz M/C 2008 Imogen Mae born 30th March 2010 weighing 6lb 2oz