I don't know where they've gone, or how long they've gone for. I tried to stop him but didn't want Z to see us screaming so there wasn't much I could do.
All because of a stupid arguement that I needed some help. We have no food in the house as we've been away, I did a big Tesco order last night and today H decides to announce that he's just going to eat baked potato and salad as he's going on a diet. I said that I'd bought the food for the next two weeks and he told me that he's got to eat healthily - it's not the meals I cook that are the problem it's the huge packets of biscuits, at least 3 packets of crisps a day that he eats that he should be cutting out !!
I then asked if he could look after Zoe so I could tidy up as the house is an absolute tip. All the Christmas presents are dumped on the dining table, there are toys all over the floor and we have no where to put them. I have been doing constant washing - of supposedly clean clothes - since we got back from ILs as everything reeks of cigarette smoke. Literally I have done 4 loads since yesterday afternoon ! I asked H if there were any things he particularly needed as we're going away again tomorrow and I was prioritising what went in the tumble dryer. I don't know what he heard but he went upstairs without saying anything and then handed me a pile of dirty washing. I just dropped it as had clean washing in my arms and asked him what he was giving it to me for. He said I'd said I was doing washing .... I'd just finished the last load and have no idea where all this came from. I asked him if he could help by taking out the stuff that was in the tumble dryer so I could put the stuff in my arms in (tumble dryer in garage) and he replied with "I thought you wanted me to look after Zoe, make up your mind, any more orders for me".
If I don't ask him to do things he doesn't do anything. Yes, I had a lie in this morning while he got Zoe up and dressed (well he didn't dress her she's still in her babygrow). But that's all he did. He got her breakfast and left all the dirty dishes on the side rather than emptying the dishwasher and putting them in it. He sat on his laptop while she at her breakfast.
He doesn't seem to realise that when looking after Zoe it's not just Zoe it's the other things that need to be done. I started saying this and got "oh, here we go again" - I saw red and we started arguing at which point he said that I wasn't fit to look after Zoe. I heard him moving around upstairs but I thought they were just playing but he's come down with Zoe and a bag and taken her off in the car.
I don't know where they've gone, when (or if) they are coming back. I'm NOT an unfit mother, I'm really not. I can look after Zoe. I can.
Apologies for lack of capital letters - Zoe has stolen my shift key 