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  • Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    My friend and her little boy (14 months, but was 3 months prem) are coming for lunch on Monday.  She didn't do BLW weaning with him due to having to wean him at his actual age rather than corrected age, and has been very disparaging of me doing it with Z - to the point of saying she thinks that I am endangering Zoe as she won't get enough nutrients etc.  However she has also said that she would like to do more finger foods but that she doesn't know what to do.

    I thought it would be really lovely if I could do a lunch that all of us could eat, so finger foods for the babies but that is nice for us to eat.  Of course, I do this all the time but because I want to "show off" BLW I'm having a bit of a brain empty moment.  Normally Z just eats whatever we are having and will happily use her fingers to eat lasagne etc but I'm guessing for a baby that isn't used to finger foods it might be better to be simpler.

    Any suggestions ?

    Apologies for lack of capital letters - Zoe has stolen my shift key Huh?

  • Re: Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    even at 3 months prem he is the equivalent of 11months and most 11 monthers I know will use their hands to eat if given the chance. he will be better with just hand feeding pasta or something than eating vegetable sticks I would think. I know you are trying to show it off but try to avoid stuff that involves a lot of chewing because she might not really have him eating big lumps yet so that might fox him, eg perhaps a pasta bake rather than lasagne so that he can kind of suck it down rather than have to bite off bits if that makes sense.

     

    I didn't BLW with either of mine because as neither of them would drink milk (well C would have a bit through until she was 1 but was weaned because she refused to drink it and Louisa cut it out completely at 6 months) I really did have to worry about how much they were getting in the way of nutrients etc so couldn't give them time to BLW.  I very rarely rarely gave Charlotte finger food at all (was scared!) but she could still eat a sandwich herself at 10 months and spoon fed herself from 13months, Louisa is only 7 months but hand feeds herself whatever she is given, stew, pasta etc. she does it, we haven't really left her to do it and she will spoon feed herself as well but obviously isn't hugely efficient at that yet but I don't think it will be long.  I do think sometimes BLWers sometimes forget that the whole point is that it is developmental so if their child can eat x or y at such and such an age then the chances are a non BLW baby will be able to give it a pretty good go too.  we didn't realise Charlotte was feeding herself at nursery every meal from 10 months so we still fed her at home but given the chance she did it herself, they do if that is what they are given.

  • Re: Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    Umm.. how about a nice tuna/chicken pasta salad,  sticks of cucumber, garlic bread (or get the pizza express dough balls, E used to love these!)  & a more grown up salad for you?

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  • Re: Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    Thanks for the suggestions.

    Anastasia, I have absolutely no idea how or what a none BLW baby would be eating at this age, she always takes jar out and about and the rest of my friends are all BLWers too.   Pasta bake it a good idea, Z wolfed that down last night, and I could easily do garlic bread etc with it. 

    I want to show off that Z is eating a good range of food and getting lots of nutrition, because she's said she was worried about Z by me doing this.

     

    Apologies for lack of capital letters - Zoe has stolen my shift key Huh?

  • Re: Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    I thought by 11 / 14 months most people offer lots of finger foods even if they aren't BLWers?

    Anyway, how about a little buffet type thing e.g.  hummous and pitta,sticks of cucumber, ham, cheese etc then fruit fingers for pudding?  That way your friend's LO can try what they want rahter than there just being one 'main' thing that they might not like

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    • dimity
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    sorry JB but I find this a bit patronising.  It's something I really don't get about BLWing.  I've had a look at some forums and they're all "wow! My 9 month old eats broccoli!"  Both my 2 were given puree and they were fully capable of managing a roast dinner, bowl of pasta and sauce or sandwiches as finger food by 9 months. BLW babies don't have a monopoly on feeding themselves.

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    I think "showing off" BLW might be a bit much.

    I think something that flows naturally and doesn't look like too much effort might be more appropriate. I think I'd feel uncomfortable if I felt my friend was encouraging me to do something I wasn't entirely comfortable with. By all means give her some finger food ideas, but it might be best not to go over the top.

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  • Re: Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    No,sorry, I think you've all misunderstood - or maybe I explained it wrong.  I don't want to encourage her to do it, I want her to see that Z is eating a good range of food and getting all the nutrition she needs.

    She actually told me just as we were starting to BLW Zoe that she was worried that she wasn't going to get the right nutrition and that we were introducting too many different foods to her.  I want to show off that Zoe is eating fine and getting what she needs, not that she has to do BLW.  I've only done it 'cos I was too lazy to puree !

    Apologies for lack of capital letters - Zoe has stolen my shift key Huh?

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    • lambi
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    WDS, not that I find you patronising though, but that E is 9 months and was given purees to start with, but now will eat anything I let him have as finger food. I still will puree some stuff though as I like to know that he is eating more than just bread and cheese every lunchtime! I personally find freezing batched cooked meals easier than having to cook up fresh veg/meat etc every mealtime, especially on nights that we fancy a takeaway!

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  • Re: Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    • dimity
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    sorry JB I shall try to be more constructive.

    Lasagne is not a bad option actually - Z can eat it as finger food and other baby can be spoon fed, and they'll probably both love garlic bread.  Or how about quiche, baked pots and veg - easy and quick but looks like you've made an effort

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    • Metoo
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    to be honest if you just want to show off surely the best thing is to pick the dinner she eats the most of and just do that, if I should ever have the desire too show off Harriet as a realy good eater (and I NEVER would, god job really on the whole she is dreadful!), but I would either do veggie cannolloni or sausage, mash and sweetcorn, but that is because it has the best chance of eating loads of, so just pick Zoe's favourite main meal and do that, at 14 months the boy will be eating the same so don't worry about that.

    I do feel the need to point out though that there is really big chance that you are going to go to all this effort to show off and your friend will not notice at all, seriously when I take my toddler round to other people's houses I seldom manage to have a sensible conversation with the friend concerned, rather than rescueing her from getting hold of stuff she shouldn't, ensuring she behaviours etc, I really would never have time to notice how well my friends baby was eating, with a 14 month old you may well find your friend is the same, so whatever you do you may not get the result you want!

  • Re: Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    Thanks guys.  She may not notice you're right.  And why on earth did I not think of just doing something I know Zoe loves. 

    Can you tell this is a friend that makes me feel really inferior ?  She always has done and probably always will.  We've been friends since school days but I've never quite felt good enough.  She has an older child and has questioned every parenting decision I've made and thinks I'm slightly loopy - the derisive laughter when we started using cloth nappies was interesting.  I guess I feel like I need to justify myself to her all the time.

    Apologies for lack of capital letters - Zoe has stolen my shift key Huh?

  • Re: Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    jelly baby:

    Thanks guys.  She may not notice you're right.  And why on earth did I not think of just doing something I know Zoe loves. 

    Can you tell this is a friend that makes me feel really inferior ?  She always has done and probably always will.  We've been friends since school days but I've never quite felt good enough.  She has an older child and has questioned every parenting decision I've made and thinks I'm slightly loopy - the derisive laughter when we started using cloth nappies was interesting.  I guess I feel like I need to justify myself to her all the time.

    Do you have to keep her as a friend? I find life stressful enough without people like this in it? Smile

    Oh and you do realise that sod's law will kick in and Zoe will eat nothing, but look longingly at the jar of puree your friend whips out? Laugh

     

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  • Re: Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    TG, yes I do have to keep her as a friend -she's Zoe's godmother !  She's a really lovely person who would do anything for me.  The only thing is that because we've been friends for ever she feels she can be totally honest with me - and sometimes I don't like that.  So, she will tell me if what I'm wearing doesn't look very good etc. 

    Apologies for lack of capital letters - Zoe has stolen my shift key Huh?

  • Re: Lunch suggestions for "showing off" BLW

    • lambi
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    Just give Zoe whatever she will eat, and don't put so much pressure on yourself (or her, if not she may not eat anything!!). I'm tempted to say same as Twiglet, and tbh if I felt like that I probably wouldn't invite her over, but I do understand that you are good friends. Sounds like you need a confidence boost though. I hope Zoe does some amazing tricks tomorrow for you!!

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