Do you and your OH have much in common?

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• 24-Aug-2009 16:45

  Do you and your OH have much in common?

  shoegal01 Joined on 28-Jan-2009 Posts 2,583 read my blog

  Contact I was thinking about this at the weekend and have come to the conclusion that we dont really have that much in common but our relationship works regardless of this. We are most certainly a case of oppisites attract.   Some of the things we dont have in common - 1 - I love going out for meals, he absolutly hates it and is totally uncomfortable in restaurants 2 - He likes the cinema, i cant stand it 3 - He is a night owl, i am a morning person 4 - He is irrational with money, i am tight as a ducks arse     Do you and your oh have alot in common what things do you totally differ on?   Married 10.10.10

• 24-Aug-2009 17:04

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  Pint&APie Joined on 19-Aug-2005 Saaaarf London Posts 2,712

  Contact I think we share very similar values and outlooks on life.  We're also both quite intelligent and enjoy learning / being challenged.  Plus we have broadly the same taste in music / food / art / books / holiday destinations etc. But at the same time, we're very different, but in complementary ways. I'm a planner, she's a doer. I'm too laid back, she can be prone to worry. I'm a saver, she's a spender (or would be if I gave her the chance) I don't like cleaning the bathroom, she hates hoovering. It all balances out - probably why we've managed 14 years together. The future's bright, the future's blue and white.

• 24-Aug-2009 17:22

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  FutureMrsCover Joined on 22-Jul-2009 Highbury Posts 201

  Contact we are very similar in some ways and different in others! we enjoy doing the same things, planning for the future, want the same things in life and generally have similar interests but personality wise we are kind of different, he is very laid back apart from wen driving, i have a short temper and get stressed about things like mess he is quicker to judge people and sees things in black and white, whereas i see everything in grey and look at things from all points of view does he loves footie and i dont count?hehe

• 24-Aug-2009 17:23

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  vickyc2711 Joined on 19-Mar-2009 Posts 246

  Contact Pint&APie: I think we share very similar values and outlooks on life   thats about all we have in common!!   he likes rock and metal music, i like a bit of everything but mainly chart music which he hates I love going out for a boogie, he hates it and is very uncomfortable in places that have large crowds of people He likes playing computer games, i dont really. I love sweets, chocolate and anything covered in sugar! he doesnt really. will eat it but not in great amounts. he still has easter eggs!!! and some sweets from christmas. I despair! Hes tall im short i love really bad tv programs like americas next top model, 4 weddings, project runway etc so when i come home from work i dont have to think. he hates these and rarely watches tv. he eats helathy and loves cooking, i hate cooking and dont eat healthy.   i could go on, we some times try and come up with stuff we have in common, but rarely do! Oh well we are happy, get along well, hardly argue and are still together after almost 7 years so something must be working!i do think that opposites attract because then you balance each othe out. if one of you doesnt like doing something the other one must!

• 24-Aug-2009 17:50

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  R-A Joined on 10-Mar-2007 London, innit. Posts 3,609

  Contact We have similar politics and views on the world. We both love making music and we met through a shared love of singing <geek alert> We have a very similar sense of humour. I guess we're both 'above average' IQ although he's much cleverer than me. We both love to be outdoors: hiking, camping etc. We're both Londoners through and through and love our city.   I like to plan and be organised, he's so laid back he's horizontal. I enjoy much more 'light' entertainment e.g. musicals. He's keen on avant garde stuff. He likes things like Lost, 24, the Wire. I live Everwood, Location Location and Supernanny. We used to both watch ER but that's finished now so the only TV show left we both like & watch together is The Daily Show!  He is a big sports fan, I am not interested in any of it. He runs, I swim.   I think we complement each other pretty well though. He's put up with me for 8 1/2 years so far anyway   ETA We both had similar upbringings (lower middle class, 'hippy' liberal parents) literally down the road from each other, which means we have lots of shared/common childhood memories and seem (so far) to have similar 'long term views' on life.

• 24-Aug-2009 18:22

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  essexmum Joined on 30-Aug-2003 United Kingdom Posts 7,233

  Contact We have very little in common.  He's fanatical about cycling - I can;t stand it. He's very outdoorsy - I prefer to sit indoors with my laptop.  He is a slob, I prefer a little order in my house He is more lax about money than I am (which is why I'm in charge of the accounts at home). He is so laid back he's practically asleep whereas I flare up at the slightest thing. However we both have the same outlook on life and agree 100% on the way our children are raised, thye say opposite attact and in our respect they are not wrong as we've been together 14 years now and more closer than ever Love is not about finding someone you can live with but finding someone you can't live without.

• 24-Aug-2009 18:27

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  LittlePeanut Joined on 17-Jun-2006 United Kingdom Posts 7,377

  Contact We have a lot in common. We share similar hobbies, like similar films, enjoy simple things like getting a coffee and people watching, both play the same instrument, both come from different backgrounds. But obviously there are differences as well. He is optimistic, I am a born worrier He is happy to jump in, I like to plan a bit. He is fine with sorting out problems when they happen, I prefer to try to avoid them. He enjoys talking to people, I'm a bit of an introvert.

• 24-Aug-2009 19:14

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  Cosmopolitan Joined on 20-Sep-2007 United Kingdom Posts 996

  Contact We are complete opposites! I'd say we have a similar outlook on life but I think that will be tested when any children come along....I'll let you know! He is very much the outdoors type and I'm a total city girl. I moved from my home city to his town which is dullsville quite quiet compared to home and he just doesn't get why I'd rather live in a polluted city! By the way we don't live out in the sticks, its just not what I'm used to! OH loves vegetables. Don't get me wrong I like them but I can't stick meat and two veg for dinner every evening, I'm more of a roasted veg girl! He likes rock music, I love pop. He watches the Discovery channel, I like anything but! I'm a spender, he is a saver. I'm optimistic, he can worry and be a bit pessimistic at times. I could go on!!

• 24-Aug-2009 19:44

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  em-ster Joined on 23-May-2007 United Kingdom Posts 521

  Contact this can freak me out a bit sometimes as there are several fundamental things where we differ aside from the type of things you have all posted, we have v different views on bringing up kids, the postives & negatives of broad regional accents politics, friends, how to make the best use of spare time / cash........................eek! we both like crunchy beef in ok sauce or a good pad thai though

• 24-Aug-2009 19:57

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  WelshTotty Joined on 26-Sep-2002 Cwm Ogwr Posts 31,859

  Contact We often talk about this and we have come to the conclusion we have bugger all in common but our relationship works very well, so it must be a case of opposites attract. He loves heavy metal, I love dance music he loves computer games, I love crafting he loves films, I dont he loves sci-fi, I hate it I love photography, he has no interest at all I love decorating, he hates it I love cooking, he doesnt know how to turn the hob on Im impulsive, he has to mull things over.......f-o-r-e-v-e-r......yawn We really are poles apart......... but we both love cats and each other so I suppose that will do! Erm, it's me, Double U Tee.

• 24-Aug-2009 19:58

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  spacecadet_99 Joined on 04-Apr-2006 United Kingdom Posts 8,987

  Contact When we got together, probably not - in terms of musical taste, intellectual interests (he's an engineer and I'm working towards an English degree), interest in sports etc we were world apart.  On the things that count - very similar.  We both wanted to get married and have children.  We both come from very similar family backgrounds (lower middle class, both parents still married, both older siblings, both parents always worked) which whilst it isn't everything certainly means you're likely to have similar values.  We both love our food and prefer staying home together to a wild night out.  We don't have any friends we disagree on (ie he likes and I don't). I also think that with the superficial things we have grown together over time.  I like a lot more rock/metal type music than I used to and he has softened his attitude towards pop and indie type music. I now actively enjoy a lot of the sports he does (only watching on TV mind!). I think the quote from Captain Corelli sums us up well, twee as it may be: 'we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two'.   I can't imagine one or other of us with anyone else, I just don't think it would be possible even if we were to split.

• 24-Aug-2009 20:29

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  Skittalie Joined on 01-Feb-2005 United Kingdom Posts 5,065

  Contact Yes and no, H and I come from the sameish area, both the eldest of 2 children and met through our county youth orchestra, we frequented a lot of the same places as children though we never met so we had similar childhood experiences but saying that, and though we are both musical, he is brass and prefers jazz and brass bands I play strings and prefer orchestral and celidih. I'm bookish whilst he is scary clever without trying, we share a common outlook on life it's why we got married, we compliment each other, he makes me more laid back when I need it and I kick him into gear when he needs it. That quote is lovely, it almost makes me want to embroider it on a cushion

• 24-Aug-2009 20:51

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  Amethyst Joined on 15-Feb-2009 Posts 1,158

  Contact I suppose the main difference is that I am quite outgoing and he is quite shy! I have to take care not to overshadow him. Also, I'm the drinker & spender and he is the more sensible one for sure. So at least the party girl has someone to make sure she gets home at the end of the evening!  I think that is one of our strengths as a couple really - I open him up more & he keeps me on the straight and narrow - in ways that don't annoy the other either.  Mostly in terms of hanging out stuff we both like the same music, watching sport, comedy, holidays, day trips etc. And computers though I am all about the social networking, he likes games and stuff. We find a rare common ground on films, TV and books.  In terms of values, morals, politics, intellect, education, background - we pretty much mirror each other.

• 24-Aug-2009 20:56

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  policefox lyn Joined on 17-Dec-2002 United Kingdom Posts 6,835

  Contact We're very alike. Similar backgrounds in that our parents were poor, working class and that we were brought up quite strictly. We have sort of similar careers in that he was Army for 18yrs and in a related field now in civvy street, I'm police. Very similar sense of humour and we pretty much like the same stuff on TV though he likes Sci Fi which I find inane. Neither of us has very close friends, neither of us are going out types or drinkers though we like to go out for meals. We have virtually identical views on child rearing.  We're both easygoing and don't like sulking or sulkers.  We like to look well presented but are not into fashion.  We like the house to be clean and tidy but we're not obsessed.  We're busy people but we're not afraid to slob either! We're a good match.

• 25-Aug-2009 9:43

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  bec84 Joined on 29-Mar-2008 Cheshire Posts 3,049 read my blog

  Contact We have very little in common, but have found more in common as we've tried more new stuf together. OH is very arty (he's a photographer) whereas I'm very analytical (I work in Banking!) I'm very level headed and often have to be a realist, he's a dreamer! OH is very fussy with what / where he eats, I'll try anything OH hates reading, I love it BUT - We got 2 cats, which we both love even though I wasn't sure, We've started going to / watching the rugby as part of a group of friends, and we have very similar taste in holidays! Wedding Photographers covering Cheshire, Merseyside and Lancashire, as well as further afield! Find us on facebook! Old Married since 10/09/09!