Forgive me in advance, as this has slight WP connection, but not that straightforward.. And its a bit long. Sorry.
I met S when i went back to college a few years ago, who has become quite a good friend. Over the last 18 months - 2 years, we've got closer, and our OH's have become good friends, and kids etc too.
When I got engaged this year, I asked her to be one of my BMs (along with 2 other good mates). OH asked her husband to be one of his groomsmen too.
Fast forward a few months, and things have gone a bit weird with S. I have noticed she doesnt text or ring me, and I never speak to her, unless I get in touch with her. We have had a couple of times in recent months, where we have gone a few weeks without speaking to each other. Last time, she text me saying - "Hey, how are you? You seem to have fallen off the radar?" - because I had. I was getting sick of always chasing her friendship. I didn't say anything, and made out like I had been busy, and we met up and everything was fine. I don't like confrontation, and although I didn't make out like it was my fault, I didn't express how I felt about her actions as a friend.
So I havent heard off S for over 3-4 weeks again - even though I have sent her a text message asking a direct question 2 weeks ago regarding the wedding. I had priced up accommodation for her and her children at 2 different hotels, and rang taxi companies for her to get quotes and all kinds, and I just wanted some feedback - but nothing. I understand my wedding is my priority and not neccearily anyone else's, but a bit of of curtesy wouldn't go amiss, especially as she is meant to be a BM (she has not contributed ANYTHING to the wedding, ideas or time or anything so far). I am not a brizezilla, and I certainly don't go on and on about wedding plans to her - thats what Hitched is for! OH hasn't really heard off the husband either.
I am pretty sure we havent done anything wrong, and I understand that people are busy, but over 2 weeks for a message is unreasonable. Besides, I am not even that bothered about the wedding info, I just want to know why she doesn't ever get in touch?!
OH says I should just ignore her till she rings - but I am starting to get wound up. I reckon she is sitting there thinking its my fault.
She doesnt have any other real mates, and I have considered its because of the way she is. It would be a shame to lose her as a friend, but I am very frustrated by it all.
What would you do? Text her and ask if everything is ok? Ignore her till she rings?
If she wasn't my BM, I would have probably given up by now....