Young brides

Hi everyone I'm new to this forum! Met h2b in jan 2008, engaged may 2011 and hoping to get married April 2015. We will both be 22 when married, everyone has been judging us and not taking us seriously because of our young age even though we own a 3 bedroom house together and have lived together for 2 years!

I know it shouldn't matter but does anyone else feel this way!?

Also I am looking for advice on a budget for the wedding, do you think £5000 is possible?

thanks, vintagebride92 xx

What should age matter!  If the pair of you feel ready, then that's all that counts.  22 isn't necessarily too young to settle anyways and you haven't rushed into anything.  Take pride in knowing that you're a sensible girl who isn't sleeping around and rather setting up your life and doing it with someone who wants to share it with you :) x

thanks for your reply, I think people just don't understand until they've found 'the one' 

I hate how it's more acceptable to have babies young these days but not marriage!

We are very excited :) 

Xx

We were both 23 when we got married and didn't have any negative comments before the wedding. Some people even asked us why we'd waited so long as we've been together 5 years .

However last weekend we met a friend of a friend who told us literally 2 minutes after meeting us that we were too young to be married and implied we should be sleeping around instead.

I'd take all the comments with a pinch of salt.

Ignore everyone.

I am 26 now, will be 27 when we get married. I met my fiance when I was 16 and he was 17, we are more in love now than ever before. Just because you're young doesn't mean you don't know what (or who) you want.

22 really doesn't seem young to me, you're perfectly able to know you've found the one! I think the trend is just getting towards marrying older and it's skewed people's thinking. My doctor defined me as a 'young mum' at the age of 23 and said I should take a chlamydia test! Hopefully when it gets closer to the wedding when you're a bit further away from the teenage years and you've lived together even longer they'll forget they ever doubted you.

Anyway, £5,000 certainly seems possible. My budget is a little under £4,000 and I haven't found I've had to go without anything important. There are plenty of tips to be found on here at keeping costs down if you need them. I'd start by having a look at the expensive things like venue and finding out how much the ones you like are so you can check the budget will work for you. Also, if you find something you're dead set on and put a deposit down now you'll be able to have it for today's prices instead of 2015 prices which might help. Good luck!

Yes, just ignore.

I'm 24, get married next year and me and OH got together when we were 17. Haven't encountered any negativity regarding our ages, but we have only been engaged since may. 

Best of luck with you're planning, do you have many ideas yet? X

Go back a few years and 22 was old!  I'm not a young bride and the fact that my hubby to be could be long gone by the time we reach our 20th anniversary sometimes upsests me, so good for you for wanting to seal your love now and look forward to a long and happy future together!

X

Just noticed your wedding date. Does that mean you're 19 now and own a house already? I'm jealous! Do the people making negative comments realise the wedding is 2 and a half years away or do they think you're rushing into it? I must admit I'd probably think that 19 is a bit too young if I thought you were getting married now.

We are 20 now! Have been together 5 years in January!

Yes people realise we will be 22, soon to be 23 when married! X

I owned a house at 19 as well, I think it's a pretty obvious sign of maturity! And the fact you're waiting so long before the date shows it's not a spontaneous 'young love' gesture x

vintagebride92:

We are 20 now! Have been together 5 years in January!

Yes people realise we will be 22, soon to be 23 when married! X

Ah I see. My reading and maths skills failed me there. Probably shouldn't have posted whilst tired

ellebob:

22 really doesn't seem young to me, you're perfectly able to know you've found the one! I think the trend is just getting towards marrying older and it's skewed people's thinking. My doctor defined me as a 'young mum' at the age of 23 and said I should take a chlamydia test! Hopefully when it gets closer to the wedding when you're a bit further away from the teenage years and you've lived together even longer they'll forget they ever doubted you.

Mine too, I went in to have my implant taken out and when she asked why, I said it was so my husband and I could start trying for a baby. Her response was to offer a chlamydia test "since you're under 24" and when I said I didn't need one thanks, she said "but it's free, you really should" and started quizzing me on the last time I took an STI test, what it covered etc Who starts trying for a baby with a man they think might give them an STI?!

Getting married on a £5k budget is certainly do-able... I did it!

I'm 23 now and when I marry, I haven't had negative comments exactly, but people who are just generally negative about marriage always wade in with their unwanted opinion. The fact that you have a house already shows you have your head screwed on and you obviously know what you want. Just ignore them, they are probably just insecure themselves.

And agree about the baby thing, if I was having a baby now, I doubt anyone would bat an eyelid, but when they find out I'm getting married, I'm crazy. Having a baby is a much bigger commitment IMO.