Work colleagues as evening guests

Just want your overal opinion again, as I'm once again I'm worrying about what people think! (I will learn at some point not to worry, but I don't feel like that point is going to arrive any time soon).

I work in a call centre in a team of 4 plus a team leader. I have two immediate managers, and also a part time one (as shes just come back from maternity) then an operations manager. I socialise out of work with another 3 colleagues (one of which another team leader), and then 2 others I've known since I started working there and they've always been interested and enthusiastic about the wedding and I would generally call friends.

This is 14 work colleagues, with giving them plus ones, which is what we're doing for all evening guests to make it more comfortable for them as even though we know them and they're people we want there - we're still going to be surrounded by loads of other friends and family so cant spend time with that one person all night if they're on their own and may not know others as well as we do.

The thing is, in the call centre, there is one other team leader I'm not inviting (I've never socialised with her out of work) so I feel bad I'm inviting 2 out of 3 team leaders. Also, there are other people in the call centre, probably about 5-10 more I'm not inviting, even though again I do see them on a day to day basis as they're in the same room (Its a massive office - too big really for the amount of people!) - and they work with the 2 others I've known for longer. Other departments I'm not too bothered with as they're in another room/downstairs so I can hide from them

I'm trying to get their address way in advance, ready for invites to go out later, so there shouldnt be much of a gossip with handing out invites to certain people, but I feel worried that I'm not able to invite them all and I'm not sure they'll understand why some are invited, and they're not.

Is this something to worry about, or does it happen in every work place?

I think it just makes me feel more awkward as the 4+ yrs I've worked there, there has only been one other wedding and as hers was in a pub it was an open invite to everyone (so no one got specific invites)

I am only invited limited people in my workplace.  It is i think something everyone will consider as there is always people that you just are not close with at work.  I am only inviting around 15 out of the 50 at my workplace, and based it on had i gone for a drink with them outside of work or had i gone for lunch with them

Hi

I work in a massive call centre, I'm going to invite the people on my team (8) as we regularly go for lunch and a drink after work and I get on with 6 of them really well, I'm inviting the other two as they're the sort who would be huffy if I don't, I'm also  inviting my TL as otherwise she'd be the only one on my team not, I also know a lot of people on other teams but wouldn't class them as friends so I'm not inviting them, I'm not giving my colleagues plus ones as they know each other so can stick together if they want to.  Almost everyone understands the limitations of numers so I'm sure nobody will take offence xx

I invited people from work who were actually my genuine friends - i.e people I socialise with and/or people I would keep in contact with should one of us ever leave my work.

It's hard because work in a medium sized company but just 10 in my office.  I invited 5 out of 10 and only one woman made it clear she had a problem with it, and realised there was no point worrying about her!

I'm not inviting any work colleagues!

We're a really small team, and I get on well with all of them except one (we're nice enough to each other at work, but I wouldn't want her at my wedding), so to save the awkwardness of inviting everyone but her (she would come, as she's so thick skinned she isn't even aware I'm not keen on her), I'm just not inviting any of them.

I've made it very clear when talking about planning that it's a very small wedding, so none of them are expecting an invite anyway, which makes things easier! ;)

I too am not inviting anyone from work. It isn't that I have a problem with anyway but I work in a small company (about 15-20 in total) and could not invite only some without feeling awkward.

I already had wedding and numbers confirmed and paid for when I started working here and would have been here 5 months when I get married and I really can't afford the extra expense of adding 20+ people to the numbers.

I work for a small company of 16 people so am inviting them all to the evening. My boss and her husband, and another of the directors (sounds like bigger company than it is, don't worry, I'm not friends with the CEO of a massive company!) are being invited to the day, as they're very good friends.

OH is inviting a few people he's met through work, one to the day (with a plus one as he won't know anyone else) and a few to the evening.

The way I handled this with my first wedding was to make a list of everyone in the workplace that I could possibly invite, then be methodical and probably very cynical as to who whould actually come - this chopped the list almost in half straightaway! In the end, out of a department of maybe 60 extra people that were on that list, 15 people actually came, and they came as a department, rather than with their partners - possibly two or three brought partners along.

I work with over 300 people with an extra 20 or so management/office staff. I've been there 5 years and have seen plenty of invites get stuck on the wall inviting everyone. Not everyone can go because shifts still need doing, but that still leaves a lot that could show up. Most would, and do, only go for the free food so I'm being ruthless and inviting specific people only. Only my very close friends who are a couple will be invited all day and I will be inviting about 10 others to the evening and they will be getting a plus one if they are in a relationship (and kids if they want). I know plenty of people will kick up a fuss but I can't afford to cater for all that could come and end up wasting the food or expecting the usual drab of attendees and having loads turn up and me run out of food.

I work in a large team (30ppl) but we are all spread across different locations. I am good friends with approx 8 of them and so will be inviting them to the wedding with partners. They way I see it is ff I don't socialise with them out of work why would I invite them to my wedding? Just think of how you would feel the other way round. If one of the team you don't want to invite didn't invite you to their wedding, would you be bothered?

Im not inviting anyone, I like my work friends but I dont see them out side of work and I honestly dont think any of them would turn up, the only one I thought about inviting, is currently going through a divorce and has taken to telling me not to get married as it is a waste of time and money and men only end up hurting you! So needless to say, the thought was only a fleeting one once these words started coming out of her mouth!