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weekender:

btw - I believe he can't force the sale of the marital home while your still bringing up your children there, as long as you can cover the mortgage payments yourself.....someone can correct me if I'm wrong.

This is correct, you can get your solicitor to put something in place preventing the house going up for sale while the children are under 16

No real update at the moment because I am so angry. So, so angry and hurt. How f*cking dare he.

We're here when you want to talk it over love x

Hope you are ok x

I've just caught up with all your posts, you poor poor love Keep leaning on the people on here who know what they're talking about, I can't offer that help as I would have no clue what to do, but I can, and I am, supplying lots of virtual hugs.  You are doing so well so far, you will get through it xx

Hope last night went ok x

I don't have any experience to offer, but have friends that have been through similar, and whilst it might seem hard to believe right now, they have come out the other end better, stronger and happier.

Hope you're ok

It's SO hard to live this. Keep talking

Sorry, I replied to your first thread and then my internet went and died. I agree with you with how f*cking dare he!

As pp have said he can't force you to sell your home while you are raising your children there. My friend has recently split with her husband and her morgage company have let her change to paying interest only and income support pays all of that. So if you are worrying about not being able to pay for the house please don't.

As someone else said he has to pay 10% of net pay for each child. If he won't play nicely I've found the CSA to be brilliant. My ex was paying me £150 a month less than he should have been. Cheeky git!

I agree with your other thread about putting keys in the locks so he can't sneak home in the middle of the night..

Hope that you are OK. That sounds totally crap but I really do!

Jaw:

The law states maintenance is 20% (for 2 children) MINIMUM of net take home pay, so use that as a point for negotiations

Stay strong and try not to worry about finances. I became a single mum after 10 years of marriage. It's not easy but you will manage and I guarantee that you will come out the other side a much happier person.. 

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