It might sound daft but if you can't afford to feed 40 odd people why invite that many?
that is the lower limit! Because its a 'joint' party we have Hs a few of Hs friends (all of whome are married with a few kids apiece) then a few of connie's 'friends' from toddler group (most of whom will be bringing 2 parents plus a sibling) plus the inescapable family invites!
Thanks for your input everyone - I've sent out invites with 'bring your own booze/meat' at the bottom, our friends and family know that we're living only on Hs wage which (as he is self employed) isn't always a lot so they should understand! I'll go to aldi and get as much meat as we can afford too as well as salads, veggie kebabs etc too. Going to go to the local farm shop and see if they'll do me a deal too.
Hepburn: I no longer have a costco card plus the nearest one is so far i may as well shop at waitrose!